How to Create Your Own Future

Create the Life You Really Want

Here you are – 2017.

Right now you are whatever age. One day you are going to be much older, and one day you are eventually going to die. There is no escaping that fact. We are all going to die.

I want you to imagine that your life is ending tomorrow. Does your life look how you imagined? What do you regret? What are all the things you planned, but haven’t yet followed through on?

  • Maybe you never managed to find the motivation to lose that 20 pounds you always wanted to.
  • Perhaps you have found yourself stuck in a really bad relationship for years because you were too afraid to leave.
  • Maybe you’re stuck at a really lousy job because it pays the bills and you aren’t certain you can find anything better if you quit.

So here you are laying on your death bed. I want you to ask yourself this:

What is ONE thing you wish you would have done differently? Do you have it? Are you imagining that one thing?

I am about to offer you the chance to take whatever that one thing is, and work towards turning it into a reality now.

This week I am offering two very basic steps you need to start now in order to create the change you are seeking. As always, the audio version of this podcast will be available on iTunes, Google Play, and Soundcloud.

1. Stop Doing What You Are Currently Doing

If you are unsatisfied with some aspect of your life, it is obvious that your current routine is not working. Further to that, continuing to do the same thing day in and day out is never going to garner you different results. New opportunities aren’t going to fall out of the sky, and you aren’t suddenly going to wake up on day with a plethora of motivation to change your lifestyle – you need to make a conscious effort.

In order to make a change, you need to focus on determining the source of your problem.

  1. What bad habits do you have that are preventing you from achieving what you want?
  2. Do spend to many hours watching youtube?
  3. Ae you eating too many cookies in a week?
  4. Do you spend too much money on useless stuff?
  5. Where do you want to go, or what do you want to do? And which of these habits is preventing you from getting there?

Whichever you determine it is, work on stopping. Don’t you dare say you can’t! “I can’t” is just an excuse that allows you to be lazy. You CAN do whatever it is you want – in fact the difference between you and the person living the life you want is that they told themselves “I can” and they did it”.

Stop with the bad habits. Stop with the excuses. And stop letting laziness control your life.

2. Starting Developing New Actions

In order to successfully build new habits, you need to approach it piece by piece.  Lifestyle changes are much easier to accomplish when they are broken down into small, more manageable chunks. So, when it comes to developing new habits to work towards the future you want, the cold turkey approach isn’t going to work. Instead, I recommend slowly replacing bad habits with new ones, one by one.

It’s all about simply taking the initiative to start developing new habits. Too often we tend to get stuck in the past in that we think, “Well this would’ve worked out if I had’ve just done this instead”. While learning from past mistakes is important, focusing all of your attention on the past is ultimately going to hold you back. The past may have been bad, but there was certainly also a lot of good moving to where you are today.

Successful people aren’t sitting around crying about yesterday, they are taking those lessons they learned, applying them to today, and moving towards tomorrow. Wherever it is you want to get in life, you need to map out your plan – swap a Netflix episode here for 30 minutes of research towards a project you’re working on, skip the take out meal one night a week and put that 10 bucks in a travel fund for that trip you want to take – be accountable, and start building your life piece by piece.

Your future is yours to create.

How to Improve Your Communication

How to Deliver Your Intended Message

Communication is key in every aspect of our lives – our careers, our education, and our relationships. Pretty much anyone can communicate in some way shape or form, but not everyone is capable of doing so effectively. While some are naturally gifted with great communication; many are not and that is OKAY!Communication is a skill that can be learned, practiced, and improved over time.

In this post, I have compiled my top 3 strategies to help in achieving these effective communication skills in your own life. As always, the audio version can be found on iTunes, Google Play, or SoundCloud.

1. Force Yourself to Listen

First of all, take note that listening is not the same as waiting your turn to talk. Sometimes we are so focused on the next point we want to say that we don’t actually listen to the other person.  You can’t concentrate on what someone’s saying if you’re busy forming what you’re going to say next. Often, the speaker can read your facial expressions and know that your mind’s elsewhere.

Be present in conversation,  slow down and listen to what the speaker is saying so that you can genuinely respond based on the information they provide. We all get so afraid that our opinions are going to get lost in the discussion that we tend to disregard what the other person has to say.

So, next time you find yourself in a heated discussion with someone you genuinely care about, slow down and actually listen. What are they saying? Why do they feel that way? Perhaps paying attention will change your own perspective.

2. Pay Attention to Non-Verbal Cues

This one may sound simple (i.e. if a person is facing away from you they probably aren’t interested in the conversation). However, have you ever tried paying attention to your own cues? Are you:

  1. Looking up and down from your phone while in a conversation in person with someone?
  2. Distracted by other visuals in the room?
  3. Crossing your arms?
  4. Yelling or speaking in an aggressive tone?

These could all be indicators (some more aggressive and obvious than others) that will reflect negatively on you in the perception of the other person. Focus on your tone (which will be different for different audiences), eye contact, and on appearing engaged and interested.

So much is interpreted – or misinterpreted – through body language, it is equally important that we are representing the message we want physically as much as we are verbally.

3. Keep Stress In Check

How many times have you said something in an argument that you later regretted? Learning how to quickly relieve stress and return to a calm state in an efficient and time effective manner is a necessary skill when it comes to effective communication. It is only in a more relaxed state that you can actually practice the other two tips I have mentioned.

But how? How do we remain calm when our emotions are starting to spin out of control? Whether it’s a job interview that has you jittered, or a heated conversation with a colleague or partner remember the following:

  1.  Recognize that you are stressed (muscle tightness, shortness of breath, heart pounding, temperature rising).
  2. Breathe. Simple but easily forgotten. Remember that breathing is what will help you maintain that calm, cool, attitude even if you are internally losing your mind.
  3. Be open to compromise, and accept the circumstances. Some things are simply out of your control. If you can both bend a little perhaps you can find middle ground painlessly.

Maintaining your stress levels, will allow you to think rationally, be able to understand the other party’s point of view, and respond in a calm and meaningful way.

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Even if you are not a gifted speaker, you can still become highly effective in the art of communication. Of course, it takes time and effort to develop this skill, BUT the more effort and practice you put in, the more instinctive and effective your communication skills will become.

How to Embrace Uncertainty

How to Leave Your Comfort Zone

When was the last time you thought about making a change in your life? I will bet that it was probably as recent as today. Maybe you want to move to a new city, maybe you want to change your career, or maybe you just want to cut your hair a different way… However, you are afraid. The idea of this change makes you nervous, and uncomfortable, but have you asked yourself why?

As humans, our biology has wired us to seek certainty. We know and understand that taking a risk can often yield great rewards, and yet we choose to stay in our safe little bubbles, living life the same as we do day in and day out.  Back thousands of years ago, humans did live in a scary world where you could be eaten by predator at night, or you could die at age 20 of disease. The threats that have ingrained fear into our biology are significantly less now thanks to technology and medicine and yet we still live in fear. Now, the aversion to risk that has kept humans alive for thousands of years, is the one thing actually preventing us from living.

Uncertainty is where new happens. I am here to remind you that you can’t do anything new without doing something different and so here are 3 tips on what you can do to embrace the uncertain, take more risks, and get a little uncomfortable. As always the audio version is available on iTunes, SoundCloud, and Google Play.

1. EXPLORE. EXPLORE. EXPLORE.

Think about this statement:

Our comfort zones are never really comfortable after all

 

You are afraid to quit your job that you don’t like because it’s comfortable. The job pays your bills, yes, but you don’t like it so is that really comfortable after all? I would say no.

The more you try to stick to the confines of your so called comfort zone, the more unfulfilled and uncomfortable you will feel later on. You need to get out and explore new places, new opportunities, and new ideas. No one has an answer to life, it is for you to discover. Be open to the possibilities you could achieve and make a move towards finding out how to get them. You’ll never find them if you don’t go looking!

2. Be Content with Looking Foolish

One of our greatest hindrances in personal development is fear. Our fear of uncertainty often stems from our fear of judgement – when taking a so-called “risk” we fear to others we might look stupid, awkward, or weird. We fear that people may perceive us as a failure if our new path doesn’t pan out. However,  despite other people’s opinions you can be sure that your life will go on regardless of outcome.

People are always going to be jealous of other people who are taking risks. Why? Because they are likely too afraid to do it themselves. When people think ill of you, that is a reflection of them  so, you have to let them judge you. Be confident in your decisions and live your life true to your intention, no one else’s.

3. Think Less, Do More.

Whenever there is opportunity to make a change towards uncertainty, our minds tend to drift towards the negative. We fear that the unknown holds a lot of bad and while this is true, the unknown also holds a lot of good. In fact, the unknown is overflowing with opportunity.

Instead of wasting your time thinking and worrying about all of the bad that could happen, start doing things that will get you closer to the good (A.K.A. your goals). The less you try to make sense of what could happen, the more time you will have to actually work towards getting what you want AND the more easily you will find the stress associated with worrying magically disappear.

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Success will never be certain, but not doing anything at all is the worst thing you can do. What makes you uncomfortable? Do that more. Eat alone. Talk to strangers. Go somewhere you have never been.

Do not let uncertainty stop you from creating your life.

How to Strengthen Your Intuition

Self-Guided Happiness

Intuition: the instinct and ability to acquire knowledge without conscious reasoning. It is the act of knowing something without knowing why or how you know it. While traditional science doesn’t recognize intuition as “a thing”, it can most certainly be honed in on and utilized as a tool to achieve the results you seek.

Intuition allows you to live a beautiful life. A life full of joy. We are often so hard on ourselves thinking if we make the wrong decision it will be awful! I encourage you to think less and receive more – if you make a bad decision you can learn how to follow your intuition to a better place.

Intuition is gentle guidance, it is never urgent or pushy and it doesn’t tell you what you can and cannot do. Instead it serves as a quiet confidence; if you follow it your soul will feel good, but there is no timeline to do so. Finding and using your intuition is the act of discovering your purpose and acting on it.

Society may pressure you to build a lifestyle in a particular way, but you don’t have to do that. Find your intuition and enable it to weave your passions into your life and your work. While choosing the path that feels most true to who you are and where you want to go may not always be clear, learning how to move through that process will lead to clarity and confidence in making future decisions to get where you want to go.

This week I have two very simple tips for you to tap into that intuitive feeling. As always you can find the audio versions of this post on iTunes, Google Play, or SoundCloud.

Find Inspiration

What is it that inspires you? Sometimes life can become so muddled and messy that it can be difficult to remember the simple joys. When you find yourself in a rut, find another source of inspiration and go back to what you love (e.g. cooking, art, meditation, gardening, watching a favourite TV show, etc.). Do whatever brings you joy.

Understand your triggers that will put you into a negative or unproductive state. Learn toin develop a “toolbox” of activities you can go to when you are approaching a this state. Learning to tap into your mind and understand what it is that makes you feel good, whether you realize it or not, is a way of tapping into your intuition.

Practice

Give yourself the opportunity to make intuitive decisions. Listen to how you really feel about what you want to do/eat/see.

Consider this example. Every day you wake up and you eat the same thing for breakfast – let’s say a bowl of cereal. I encourage you tomorrow to instead wake up and rather than reverting to this habit think to yourself, “What do I want for breakfast?”. If it’s cereal, great. However, I trust if you really listen you may discover another answer; maybe it’s toast, fruit, eggs, or oatmeal. As silly or simple as it may sound this is an easy way of training your brain to trust your intuition.

You need to afford yourself the opportunity to follow that gut feeling. We often ignore this feeling in fear of the “what if’s” and the comfort in sticking with the status quo, but in practicing over time to trust you heart in decisions for smaller events (i.e. breakfast), you will build the confidence in your intuition enough to make larger more life impacting decisions later on.

Learn to stand in your truth. Let your heart lead and use your head (logic) to formulate the plan. 

 

How To Travel on a Budget

Travel on a Budget

Travelling is fun. It’s a great way to gain exposure to new cultures, and an opportunity to learn about different parts of the world. Through travelling I have gained perspective on numerous aspects of my life, including developing a better grasp on my own self-awareness. However, the desire to travel also poses limitations. Travel is expensive. Life is expensive. Making travel a priority isn’t always an option… or is it?

After travelling throughout Southeast Asia and North America, I am here to offer my top 3 tips for staying on a budget while travelling. As always the audio version of this post is available on iTunes, SoundCloud, or Google Play.

1. Find Flight Deals

To find cheap flights, I use three main websites/apps – Skiplagged, Skyscanner, and Hopper. Each serves relatively the same purpose; scanning available flights to tell you the cheapest time/places to travel.

If you are less fixated on a single destination and are in the Ontario area, I would recommend also signing up for the YYZ Deals mailing list. Chris posts blogs with amazing deals to a variety of destinations out of Toronto, but you have to check often and act fast if you wanna snatch up the deals!

2. Cheap (or even free) Accommodation Exists.

Lately when travelling, I have been relying solely on Air BnB. This is basically the option of staying in someone’s house – typically a room, the whole house, or a couch – for a nightly fee. Some locations offer the more traditional Bed and Breakfast experience in which breakfast is included, where as others are simply a place to crash and may or may not have the option for you to utilize the kitchen yourself.

If you have yet to use AirBnB and would like to save $$$ off of your first stay, you can use my discount link here.

If you are more into the backpacking scene, Hostel World is a good option for dorm style accommodations. I have personally used it through Southeast Asia, as well as while travelling in New York City as it is a much cheaper option than a private hotel room.

If free is more your style then CouchSurfing might be the option for you. This website connects travellers with locals, and provides you with a couch to sleep on… FOR FREE!

3. Get a Rewards Card – Get Free Stuff

This is a little insider tip denounced to many. I encourage you all to visit your bank and ask about the American Express Gold Card. Yes. The card has a $100 annual fee (no thanks). Typically, promotions exist in which this fee will be waived for the first year. While that is great, the real deal is the 25,000 points (equivalent of $250 in travel) you can get for free if you spend $1500 on your card within the first 3 months.

NOW I’m not saying you need to go in debt to get free travel points. Instead I suggest setting up online banking on your phone and using your AMEX as a debit card; transferring the money from your bank account as soon as you spend it on your credit card. By paying as you go, you will avoid overspending and shocking yourself with a huge bill at the end of the month, while still getting $250 IN FREE TRAVEL!!

Once you’ve redeemed your points, call your bank and cancel the card before the 1 year is up and you will avoid the annual fee – SIMPLE.

Travel may seem elusive, but it’s really not. Make a plan. Do your research. Talk to the locals. Find a deal.

 

How to Find Your Own Happiness

Finding Happiness

Happiness.  Easy for some, elusive for many.  While many may disagree, I believe that you can make decisions which lead to overall happiness and contentment in life. It may not be easy; in fact at times it will be seemingly impossible, but by making the effort to monitor your thoughts and actions, and steer course towards a more balanced present, happiness can and will be achieved.

Taking time to reflect, and making conscious steps to make your life happier, really does work.

As always you can listen to the audio version on SoundCloud, iTunes, or Google Play.

1. Choose The Right Opportunities

For most, happiness is an achievement; the result of effort and intention – not a mere coincidence. Happiness in itself is not a decision, instead it is the result of the decision to pursue attitudes and behaviours that will result in happiness over unhappiness. The key to obtaining happiness is to put yourself into environments that increase your probability and to avoid those which are detrimental or draining on our already scarce resource.

2. Foster Forgiveness

Bitterness serves as an anchor; a catalyst for stagnation. Holding onto anger and grief has been proven time and time again to negatively affect our mental and physical well being. While simply saying “get over it” is easier said than done – learning to foster forgiveness towards that which we cannot control is integral to the process of moving onwards and upwards.

  1. Recall the hurt.
  2. Try to empathize with the perpetrator – why did they do what they did?
  3. Remember a time when you were granted forgiveness.
  4. Commit to the forgiveness – mentally or physically (i.e. write it down).
  5. Do not dwell not the hurt/anger, hold on to the forgiveness.

Mulling will not get you very far, this I can assure you. Let it go, move along, don’t let the actions of other control your happiness.

3. Fake It Until You Feel Better

While the principle of this seems silly – you are sad/upset/angry/hurt why pretend to be something you are not (i.e. happy)? The psychology behind this practice is proven.  Smiling alone can induce the feeling of happiness. All feelings are the result of actions, by acting happier your brain will begin to believe that you are actually happier.

4. Put Your Negativity In Check

Negativity will always be the default. It is easy to be negative, because positivity makes us uncomfortable.  Negative thoughts serve no real useful purpose and can directly contribute to negative emotions.  Negative thoughts leave us in a state of hopelessness, thinking we will never have enough, be enough, or find enough.

Given that negativity is the norm, it can be difficult to identify in ourselves when we have shifted into this state of mind. In order to learn how to change negative thoughts, you must first learn to recognize them. Start paying attention to your thought patterns; practice mindfulness. Pay attention to your present. Focusing too much on the past (what could have been) or the future (what may never come) is neither useful nor productive.

If you can catch these thoughts before they gain momentum, you will better be able to flip the problem into perspective and deal with it in a much more positive light.

5. Engage In Meaningful Activities

Think about how you have spent the last 24 hours.

Were you productive? Did you get something accomplished?

If no, how are you feeling?

If yes, I can bet you are feeling pretty good. Studies have shown that in order to get more [happiness] out of life, you have to put more into it. People are seldom happier than when they achieve a sense of flow in their lives; a state of mind in which you become absorbed in a meaningful task or challenge. While flow-inducing activities seldom come naturally, the reward far outweighs the investment. So determine something you wish to achieve and work for it. Reap the rewards of your efforts and feel truly happy.

Find your fuel. Ignite your fire. Chase your happiness. Great things will come.

How to Change Your Morning Routine (For the Better)

How To Have a Better Morning

First things first, I’ve got a couple of questions for you. How badly do you struggle to get out of bed in the morning? Further to that, once you force yourself out of bed, how are you feeling? For many of us, getting out of bed is only half of the struggle, the real challenge comes with trying to orient ourselves towards having a happy and productive day. We all weren’t born morning people, and that is perfectly okay. However, that doesn’t mean we have to be walking zombies either. This week I want to share with you 6 simple things you can implement into your daily routine to enter your day more energized and ready to take on the world.

As always, you can listen to the podcast for this post on iTunes, Google Play, or SoundClound.

1. Leave Your Curtains Partially Open

*insert gasp here* I know many of us feel the need for pitch black in order to fall asleep, (I get it – trust me), but as long as you aren’t going to bed when the sun is still up, cracking the curtains a few inches shouldn’t hurt. The main benefit of this practice is the natural light that aids in your awakening. Even though you will still be asleep in the morning, the natural light seeping through your eyelids will trigger your brain to slow the production of melatonin (sleep hormone) thus encouraging you to wake up – with much ease I might add. Consistent practice of this will aid in the adjustment of your “natural clock” making it easier and easier over time to wake up.

2. Change Your Alarm Sounds Frequently

Have you ever had a dream in which a fire alarm or car horn goes off and won’t stop, only to wake up and realize that it was your alarm clock all along? Well, you are not alone. Naturally our brains adapt to repetitive sounds – particularly those we have implemented to wake us from our slumber. So over time, rather than instilling fear and jolting us out of bed, the familiarity of the noise causes the alarm to lose its effectiveness.

My suggested solution to this is simple – switch up your sounds, scare yourself, and get the heck out of bed. While there is no set timeframe for how frequently you need to change your alarm, whenever you begin to find it easier and easier to either sleep through the sounds or hit snooze one million times, it is likely a good indicator that it is time for a change. For me, I typically try to switch it up every couple weeks, and set two separate alarms 5 minutes apart – the first calming and gentle and the second much more obnoxious to get me going. Find what works for you.

3. Chug Water

So, you just woke up after sleeping for 7-8 hours. I can guarantee you that your body is going to be dehydrated, which is why I like to start each day by chugging 1L of water. Now, you can chug back just any ole plain water or if you’re feeling adventurous you can try my Morning Elixir.

  • 2 slices of Lemon
  • 2 slices of Fresh Ginger
  • 1 tsp Cinnamon
  • 1 tsp Whole Chia Seeds
  • 1 tbsp Apple Cider Vinegar with the Mother*
  • 1 tsp Raw Honey**
  • 2 cups of Water

* the “Mother” refers to gut-friendly enzymes, bacteria, and proteins – without the mother the health benefits are non-existent.

** raw honey contains numerous vitamins and minerals not found in regular honey therefore maintaining all of its anti-viral/anti-fungal properties

This drink proves beneficial for the following reasons and then some…

  1. Improves Your Digestion
  2. Boosts Your Metabolism
  3. Suppresses Your Appetite
  4. Improves Your Skin
  5. Increases Your Energy Levels

Honestly on days where I don’t drink it – my body knows.

4. Do a Face Mask

Many people recommend face masks for the evening. Step 1) Go to sleep with a face mask on. Step 2) Wake up with hydrated skin. Sounds simple enough right? While it may prove effective, for me it proves to be a nuisance and so I have opted for the alternative.

Every morning at 6am as I blindly struggle my way out from under the sheets and stumble to the bathroom, I reach for my Lush Cup O’ Coffee face mask and smear it ever so aesthetically across my face. A coffee scrub mask (whether purchased or homemade like this one here) serves to be effective in the morning for 2 reasons.

  1. The smell of coffee alone acts as a stimulant to the brain, therefore helping you wake up.
  2. The granules work as a mildly abrasive scrub and help to free up any dead skin cells or impurities that accumulated during your beauty rest.

Follow this practice up with a quality moisturizer and DAMN you will not regret this decision.

5. Stretch

Stretching: a simple practice and yet so few of us actually do it. Think you don’t have time for a little morning yoga session? Wrong. Youtube has you covered. Try this video, or search through the hundreds of other “5 minute morning stretching routines”. Stretching out your extremities first thing in the morning will enhance blood flow, increase your alertness, and improve the oxygen flow to all of your tissues – a win, win, win situation one might say.

6. Pick One Thing You Wish to Accomplish

So you’ve thought about incorporating all of the other steps I have mentioned, but are feeling a little overwhelmed.

“These seem too hard” or “It will take too much effort/time”

That is okay. If I can leave you with one last piece of advice, I will at least try to make it easy. In this life everyone is seeking to feel a sense of contribution or purpose; a sense that the things they have done will or have made a difference.

So, I want you each and every morning, to establish one single thing you want to accomplish for that day. Keep your goal simple (i.e. I will go for a 20 minute walk, I will call my Grandma, I will pay my Visa bill, etc.). In doing this and making it something actually attainable, you are setting yourself up for success. You will not only have something to work towards, but you will also have the satisfaction of accomplishing something once it is done. What better feeling is there than that?

 

The key to having a good day is starting off on the right foot. Give yourself the time, and utilize the tools necessary to achieve your own successes.

How To Handle Rejection

Handling Rejection

So, you got rejected. It hurts right? Really sucks? Feels not so great? Jobs. Relationships. Everything else that got away. We have all been there. Rejection isn’t easy, but it certainly doesn’t have to be as difficult as we often make it out to be. The way in which you respond to it can determine your future. Are you going to allow it to hold you back, or will you utilize the chance to grow stronger, more resilient, and better prepared the next time?

As always, you can find the audio version of this post on iTunes, SoundCloud, or Google Play.

1. Reframe the Rejection

The easiest thing you can do when faced with rejection is to slip into the “I’m so stupid” mentality.  Approaching your defeat with this attitude is only going to hold you down. If you aren’t there to lift yourself up,  no one else will be either. It’s important in these times, to reaffirm the efforts you have made and remember, “I pushed myself to my limits”. By exercising this compassion you can begin to see the new possibilities provided by this misfortune.

2. Do Not Let It Define Your Limitations

A single case of rejection (or perhaps more than one) is not indicative of the end. Not getting the job you wanted, or being rejected by the one you ‘love’ does not discredit who you are as a person or the skills and attributes you have to offer the world. It is not the end.

Remember, one incident or individual is not reflective of all that you have and are.

3. Seek the Learning Opportunity

Rejection doesn’t have to be the end. In fact, rejection can serve as a humbling experience because it reminds you that you don’t know/have everything. With the right mindset, rejection can serve as an opportunity for motivation to do and be better.

Yes. You lost opportunity x or person y,  but what did you learn? What can you do differently next time? And what is it that you want?

Rejection is hard and it hurts, but it’s certainly not the end. Revaluate, appreciate, and always persevere.

How To Find Motivation

motivation guide

I would first of all like to open my post with an apology to my followers for how MIA I have been over the past couple of weeks. A trip to paradise coupled with a hectic schedule upon return has left me feeling overwhelmed, unfocused, and more importantly – unmotivated. If you need a few tips on finding your motivation when things seem to have unraveled, then I have got some great information for you!

Much like anything in life, motivation is going to ebb and flow throughout our journeys; sometimes naturally, and other times as a result of external forces. Accepting this notion as fact is one thing, but making the effort to change it is another. There are times in these periods of low motivation that something will spark within us, ignite our flame, and find us off again on a whim ready to take on the world. However, (much has been my personal case as of late) there are times when no matter what we try, we simply do not seem able to muster up the ability to get sh*t done.

This week I want to walk you through the 3 steps that I have used, and continue to use, to restart my motivation and get myself back on the path to success. As always, the audio version of this post is available on iTunes, SoundCloud, or Google Play.

1. Follow a Consistent Schedule

Whatever your goal or task at hand is, you need to make your approach to it consistent. Set aside a specific time each day (or however often it is you need to get whatever it is done), and make it the same every day you do it. Whether it is the 1 hour you are going to spend at the gym, or the 5 minutes you are going to spend meditating before an exam, make the pattern the same – EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. Consistency will be the key to your success.

As humans, we want nothing more than to have excuses for the things we don’t feel like doing. By incorporating whatever the activity may be into a regularly scheduled routine, you can replace the excuses with an obligation to get it done. You don’t think twice about going to work every day, so why should you think twice about doing the things you actually want to do in your life?

2. Commit Publicly

Do you have something you want to start (or re-start) pursuing? Well, there is no better way to commit yourself to it then to tell all – or at least one of – your friends or family. While Facebook and Twitter are inundated with so much useless jargon, they still serve as useful tools for sharing our thoughts, goals, and aspirations in a public arena. After all, we are much more likely to stick with getting something done if others are expecting it of us as well. It’s easy to lie to yourself, but no one ever wants to be known as that person who never follows through with what they say they’re going to.

3. Always Create New Challenges for Yourself

It is nearly impossible to find pleasure and motivation in completing tasks that are easy and monotonous. Sure, you’ll have fun for a day, but once the novelty wears off you will be bored, uninterested, and seeking an alternative. Trust me. If this is a state you currently find yourself in – be it work, school, or a special project (like me) – that is perfectly normal! The key when caught in one of these cycles is to take the initiative to create a new challenge for yourself.

Depending on your situation it could be as easy as asking your boss for a new task, or changing the deadlines for something your working on to a week sooner for that added pressure. Whatever the approach, use it as an opportunity to exhibit your initiative. New challenges = new opportunities.

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Life can get hectic, hard, and overwhelming. It’s important to remember that steering off course is natural. Having the ability to centre yourself back into focus  is the true testament to your trajectory in life.

We each only have one life, and it’s about time we all start working towards getting motivated and making the most of it.

 

How To Take Control of Your Life

CONTROL AND ACHIEVING RESPONSIBILITY

When was the last time you found yourself thinking about your current situation in life, and how making just one different decision in your past would’ve have changed the course of everything for the better? Perhaps if you had or had not of done that one thing, absolutely everything would be totally different. Maybe if you could have had more time, better support, or different resources things would have worked out how you wanted them to. These thoughts are destructive, and it’s finally time to stop and take control.

People tend to live as though their past controls their future, but this is only true if you allow it to be. Your memories of past events are biased, leaving you with feelings towards those situations that are distorted and often times, unresourceful. By learning to own the fact that you are in control of the decisions you have made and will make in your life, you are one step closer to achieving your desired outcomes.

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1. Quit Passing the Blame and Let Go

All too often we don’t want to own up to the mistakes that we have made in the past. We blame other people, our previous circumstances, and our surroundings for not achieving the results we wanted. Not only is this tendency unattractive to others when trying to gain their support, but it also prevents us from altering our decision making process and impedes us from getting the results we want.

I want you to think of a time when something didn’t go your way. Did blaming someone/something else change that? Nope, definitely not. What can YOU do differently next time to alter your outcome?

We are in control of our own decisions. By learning to liberate ourselves from the decisions of the past (both our own and those of others) we can achieve so much more clarity on the path to being successful. Always reflect on what you have learned, and move forward knowing how you can be better. Do not worry about the others.

2. Learn to Accept and Take Care of Yourself

When you learn how to take 100% responsibility for things you want and the work you put into achieving them, you will begin to naturally attract the support of others without them being the ones in control.

We are all human, each respectively with our own flaws. By learning to accept our faults, and working towards being better each and every day we will find that the sense of control we feel in our day-to-day actions will naturally strengthen.

Continuously seek to develop traits that will aid in the process of getting what you want and nurture those characteristics as they develop. Reward yourself for your successes, but do not punish yourself for mis-steps; it is all part of the journey. In order to feel good you need to reassure yourself that you are doing good, so be sure to evaluate along the way and recognize your achievements – no matter how small.

3. Establish Your Priorities and Always Think Forward

If you feel like you are constantly at war with a never ending to-do list perhaps it is time to stop and assess how you got there. Don’t be afraid to turn away new opportunities that do not contribute to your overall end game. The end goal here is progress, if your actions are not contributing to your progress then why are you participating in them? Rid your time of useless activities.

Further to the idea that you should not waste your time on things not contributing to your overall success, it is important to recognize that you also aren’t going to do something you don’t believe is possible. If you tell yourself you can’t do something, then chances are you won’t. After all, why would you try to do something that your brain thinks you are incapable of doing? Prioritize your success, and work towards the end goal here. Think of the tools and actions you need to get there, and determine how you can and will get and do those things. Don’t be afraid to give it your all – even in unfamiliar territory.

Quit the “No’s” – Love Yourself – Strive Towards Success