How To Live Your True Purpose

What is your purpose here? What is your truest desire? Your desires are the map to the life you really want to live.  However, from a very young age you have been conditioned to be fearful and taught to play it safe. Whether this conditioning has come from the bad news you see on TV or the stories from your parents – you are designed to live cautiously at risk of getting hurt (physically emotionally or even financially).

We see this all the time in day-to-day life. Anytime someone we know decides to take risks (travel the world, quit their job to follow a passion, etc) instead of being supporting we often caution them of the dangers.

  1. What if they get hurt?
  2. They will probably fail.
  3. What if they go bankrupt?

We are raised to “follow our dreams” but are later cautioned to take the safe route – get a good job and stick it out because it will lead us to happiness.

Now stop for a minute and imagine a world where the opposite were true.

Imagine if we supported people whole hardly in their pursuits.

When it comes to fear, you have no guarantee that the BAD things you fear are going to happen. In fact following your dreams could actually lead to something absolutely incredible, but you won’t know if you don’t try!

Here are my 3 tips for you to stop listening to everyone else, and start living your true purpose. As always you can find the audio version on iTunes, SoundCloud, and Google Play.

1. Learn to Get Comfortable In It

What is “it” you ask? Well, “it” can be whatever you want. Your dream job, your dream relationship, your dream vacation… you can decide to go for it, whatever it is.

NEWS FLASH – your freedom is on the other side of fear. I am not saying quit your job and go frivolously spend 10k on a trip to Bali. I am saying that fear is likely the one major component holding you back from chasing whatever it is you want.

In order to fulfill the seemingly impossible dream, the first thing you need to do is get comfortable in the idea that anything is possible. You create your own reality. Decide what it is you want and decide that you are going to get.

2. Think to The Future

Start now by remembering a time you did something you were really scared to do. Whether it was bungee jumping, moving away from home for the first time, starting a job you weren’t even sure you were qualified for… Whatever it is – I want you to think back to that time!

How do you feel about it now?

It is funny how our fears are less scary looking back on… Something that nearly immobilized us at the time has us now thinking “Wow I can’t believe I was afraid of THAT!”

Now what I want you to do with whatever it is you are afraid, is pretend to look back on what it from a future you. You need to tell yourself, “I am going to do this, and it won’t be so bad.”

3. Break Down the Fear

Lastly, determine what part of your dream you are afraid of.

  • Is it failure for not being able to succeed?
  • Is it humiliation for even trying?

On the other hand, imagine you were to give up on the dream entirely. What could potentially happen?

  • Maybe sadness for never finding out if it was even possible?
  • Maybe humiliation for never having the guts to try?

Now you need to decide which of these two possibilities is worse.

Would you rather continue to live in mediocrity, or would you rather pursue success? (And yes potentially failure, but THINK of what you could learn!)

We are all so stuck in our comfort zones that we are afraid to move. Stop letting the fear of not doing whatever your dream is outweigh the fear of getting it done.

YOU CAN DO THIS.

Determine your dream, get comfortable in the idea that it is possible, think of how easy it will feel when it’s over and focus on breaking down what silly little thing it is that you are actually afraid of.

YOU CAN DO THIS. I CAN DO THIS. WE CAN ALL DO THIS.

How To Live a Joyful Life

Finding Every Day Happiness

We all desire a good life; one filled with purpose, love, and of course joy. Living a life full of joy does not mean that it is perfect. Living a joyful life simply means to appreciate the greatness that is either happening or anticipating the greatness that is yet to come, despite whatever negativity you may have going on.

Many people seek to find joy in something or someone outside of their own being. The real answer to finding joy in your life however, is to confront the positives within yourself and your own life. Trust the process, and focus on the good.

Joy is a path you must consciously choose to follow each and every day.

1. Let Go of Hurt

Easier said than done, I know. Holding onto a grudge, anger, or hurt doesn’t create any resolution to make you less angry, in fact it serves no purpose other than to occupy space in your mind. Being angry and holding onto anger not only drains our energy, but also prevents us from being able to focus on the things that will bring us joy. You need to focus on serving yourself in the present by learning to come to terms with past. Chances are whatever is hurting you cannot be changed, so stop dwelling and start moving towards forgiveness, freedom, and the joy that comes with it.

2. Practice Positive Thought

Do you ever notice that when you’re in a negative headspace, bad things tend to happen more frequently? Minute by minute you are constructing the thoughts that will guide your life. You are developing your own narrative – good or evil. The thoughts you think will begin becoming the actions you take, the behaviours you develop, and a reflection of the real you.

Negative energy can lead to negative results, much like positive thinking can do the opposite. When we think in a more positive headspace we are more likely to seek (and find) the right opportunities that will give us the results we desire. In order to live a life that focuses on joy, you must learn to train your thoughts to do the same.

3. Set Intentions

Intentions are going to guide your actions and in turn allow you to achieve the joyful life you are seeking. Make it your mission to remain open and agreeable despite whatever negativity or challenges you may face throughout your day. Intentions provide not only a structure for your day, but also the motivation to actually follow through. If you tell yourself you intend to have a joyful day, your odds are better than if not

Try it out for yourself! Tell yourself “I intend to be kind, I intend to take the first step in pursuing passion X, I intend to help another person today” whatever it is, set an intention that will positively influence your day.

4. Find Passion In The Work of Others

One of the keys to experiencing joy, is to be able to share it with others. Every day is not going to be a good one, and while today may not be a good day for you, it likely is for at least one other person you know. Find them, and celebrate with them. Learning to use other people’s successes and positive vibrations to shift your own, will ease your ability to find your own joy.

Congratulate that friend on their new job! Celebrate that family member’s newly announced pregnancy! Even if it’s something you are lacking or envying in your own life – I encourage you to find passion and ignite your own joy in sharing in the successes of those closest to you. Positivity can be contagious.

Every moment offers you a choice. Stress, anger, confusion, joy… Which will you choose to sit in?