How To Ace a Job Interview

3 Step Guide to Better Interviews

Gone are the days where you can graduate college/university and walk into a job with nothing more than your degree. Recruiters are now skimming hundreds of resumes for volunteer work, internships, additional courses, and anything else that can set you apart from the plethora of well educated individuals. While managing to land a job interview is a feat in its own, successfully getting the job is a whole new ballgame.

Trust me when I say that I have had my fair share of terrible interviews

1. Do Your Research.

So, you have managed to get an interview. Congratulations! Obviously you have the necessary skills, but now you need to learn what it is exactly that the recruiters are looking for. Lucky for you, the internet makes it easy!

  • Search the positions on linked in – know what kind of people/experience have that position
  • Research background info on the company, know their values/mission and how you could fit

2. Prepare Your Answers and Practice Out Loud

Being prepared may seem like cliche advise, however preparedness is not to be taken lightly.

  • Look up questions specific/typical to that job
  • Write down potential answers
  • Practice reading them outloud to create a more natural sound
  • Know what you’re saying and make it authentic

3. Ask Questions.

The number one thing people often forget to do is ask the recruiters questions. While you may feel as though asking questions makes you seem unprepared, recruiters see this as an opportunity to understand your interest in the position. While questions are encouraged, make sure that the questions you are asking about are meaningful and worth the time

  • Ask job specific, not general – i.e. what do you forsee as the biggest challenge?

 

 

Millennial of the Month: Cassidy Davis

Cassidy Davis Headshot

This month I had the pleasure of interviewing an up and coming actress living in Los Angeles. Cassidy shares about her transition to LA, what it’s like living there day to day, and even provides advice for other millennials who are a little too afraid to follow their truest intention. The full interview with Cassidy can be found on the podcast.

Where to Find the Interview

iTunes Link

SoundCloud Link

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How To Accept and Use Feedback

How to Accept and Use Feedback

Receiving feedback is never very easy, particularly when that feedback is negative. In fact, your initial reaction when it comes to receiving criticism is likely going to be defensive. Even when you know the feedback you are getting is entirely accurate, it can sometimes be difficult to accept it graciously and move on.

Learning how to rewire your reactions when it comes to receiving negative feedback is essential in learning how to use that feedback to your advantage. The first step to growing as a person is to learn where it is that you can improve. No one is perfect, and therefore nobody expects you to be.

Follow these 3 simple steps to begin accepting and utilizing feedback for your own personal benefit. As always, the audio version of this podcast can be found on SoundCloud, iTunes, and Google Play.

1. Pick Your Audience

You are never going to satisfy or suit everyone. Focus your efforts on the people you actually want to please. If it’s a product or idea you are selling or pitching – who is your intended consumer? Design your content for them. If it’s a work project for a specific client – design your presentation towards what they want.

Sometimes in life it is important to recognize that your opinion or idea isn’t always going to best deliver your message. Listen to the feedback you are receiving and re-work your message to suit your audience’s needs.  You need to know who you are trying to talk to, work for, satisfy, and so on. Deliver your message in a way the intended audience will understand while still staying true to your own intentions. You can still be yourself and please others too provided you use their feedback to determine how best you can satisfy their needs.

2. Learn to Listen and Evaluate

Negative feedback: it’s uncomfortable, it can be hurtful, and it can really do a number on your self-esteem. While in these times it may seem easy enough to just nod along and tune whatever the other party is saying; you need to remember that the opportunity to receive feedback, even if it is negative, is an important one!

You never want to send out the signal that you are

  1. Not open for feedback in the future.
  2. Entirely “uncoachable” all together.

Take in the feedback you have been given, and rather than react to it; I encourage you to process. Take the time to really pick it apart (not in an obsessive way) in order to determine the validity of the feedback.

  • Was it something you already knew about yourself or your project?
  • Have you received similar feedback in the past?
  • How credible is the person giving you this feedback? (Maybe their opinion doesn’t really matter anyway).

Only by listening and really evaluating what the individual is trying to tell you can you really begin to process the response, and apply the necessary or recommended changes into your life.

3. Take a Hard Look In The Mirror

Mindfulness is integral to this process; knowing your behaviours, and recognizing where you can improve, and feedback is the perfect opportunity for you to reflect on just how mindful you are really being.

It is easy to blame other factors, people, and situations for why our work was received poorly, but that reaction is not helpful nor constructive in the long run. You are in control of your own life. Own it.

  • Where can you be better?
  • What can you do better?

Accept, but don’t dwell on what isn’t working and keep moving towards being better and doing better next time. Criticism can hurt, and that is okay. Remember, the difficult times in which we struggle are often the times that provide the most successes.

Embrace resistance, embrace feedback, and work on moving forward as a better self.

How To Behave Relentlessly

How to Achieve Success in Your Life

The dictionary definition of relentless is: “to be of unwavering intensity, strength or pace; something that is constant or incessant”.

In a real life application, relentless is a state of mind that can allow you to achieve, survive, and overcome all despite what hurdles life my throw your way. The power is within you to choose to be relentless in your relationships, your career, or any other aspect of your life.

In your own life, you most certainly have predetermined opinions about what success looks like and you likely have opinions on what taking a risk will look like also (hint hint – I can almost bet you that you tend to think that risk will result in failure). However, you need to realize that no one can ever really prove what the outcome of a situation is going to be unless they take action. The opinion that taking a risk is going to result in failure, is merely just an opinion that you have accepted and is now consequently holding you back from acting on your potential.

The thing about people who are relentless is that despite these opinions, they continue to push forward. Despite the potential outcomes – good or bad – they continue through it all each an every day.

This week I am sharing with you how you too can become more relentless each and every day in order to work towards living your fullest potential. As always the audio version of this post is available on iTunes, SoundCloud, and Google Play.

1. Take Charge

This is your life. You are always in the drivers seat. You need to own that fact and act on it.

Relentless people take responsibility no matter the scenario. They are willing to take control and use whatever means necessary to conquer the task at hand.

Whether it’s a work project with a tight deadline, a conflict with a friend or partner, or some other sort of issue – take charge of the situation for making whatever outcome it is you WANT, happen. You are in control, you’ve got this, get out there, and get it done.

2. Work on Repetition

Successful people don’t put in work because they are successful, they are successful because they have put in the work. Figure out how you’re going to get to where you need to be and put in the work needed.

For example:

  1. You won’t get fit going to the gym once a month, you need to be consistent. The more you go to the gym, the more you will want to, and the more routine it will become.
  2. You won’t build relationships by never leaving your house, you need to make an effort. The more you get out and socialize, the more inclined you will feel to do so regularly.

Successful people are relentless. Successful people try; and not just once. Successful people are consistent and persistent on their pursuit of success. Make the work a habit and it won’t seem like work at all.

3. Forget The Excuses

Think of a time when something didn’t go your way. How did you react? How did you explain it to others? Did you sugar coat it? Did you blame someone or something else? We have all been there.

Next time you find yourself in this situation, own it. Say you’ve screwed up, be willing to admit when you’ve done wrong, and most importantly take responsibility to fix or change it next time.

Maybe you didn’t get that job because you bombed the interview, thats okay – next time make sure you practice. Maybe you failed that exam because you didn’t study, that’s okay – next time try studying. Maybe a friendship or relationship failed because you didn’t put in the effort, that’s okay – own it, apologize for it, and do better next time.

Relentless people are not perfect, nor do they claim to be. To be relentless you need to say “HEY! I messed up, BUT here is how I am going to fix it.”

4. Always Focus Forward

Every day you are going to face things you don’t want to do. Great success is rare because people tend to avoid the tasks they don’t want to do. The secret to success though, is challenging yourself and pushing past the discomfort of doing what you don’t want to. Next time your mind is telling you that you can’t do something, just push forward and do it.

You need to get comfortable being uncomfortable and push past that surface level discomfort to move towards the future. If you focus forward, past your self-created limitations, those seemingly impossible or undesirable limits of what you “didn’t want to do” will soon become the new normal. Get comfortable being uncomfortable, and keep moving yourself forward.

Normal people remain normal because they never challenge themselves. Relentless people succeed because they push themselves to grow beyond their limits.

In a day you may think a thousand thoughts, however unless you act on those thoughts they will simply remain just that – a thought. You are not your thoughts, you are your actions. You need to do what you want to be.

How to Have a Successful Mindset

Achieving Success

Success is not merely granted; it is achieved through hard work and persistence. In this life, there is a well defined difference between people who create their own life to become successful and people who settle for what life provides them. In order to create the life you want, you need the foundation for a mindset that allows you to succeed.

Remaining focused on the pathway to success can be challenging at times. There are often road blocks impeding your efforts – lack of inspiration, societal pressures, barriers to starting. When faced with these challenges,  you can say MEH and just give up OR you can persist and push through. You don’t have to be the smartest person, have access to the most resources, or be the most talented in order to be successful; you just have to make the effort to try, and continue see your dream through to the end even when times get tough.

As always, the audio version for this is available on SoundCloud, iTunes, and Google Play.

Believe in Yourself and Be Willing to Forgive

As with any pursuit in life, the journey is mental and your mentality will control your outcomes. If you believe in yourself that you can do whatever you set out to accomplish, you are subconsciously not going to back down. This ability is established from growing your self confidence (this concept was addressed in August’s post: How to Create Your Confidence). By having the confidence to know that you can accomplish things, you will lead yourself to believe that you can and will accomplish even more.

While getting stuff done is great, it is always important to check in with yourself and to make sure that you are working towards being your best self.

Ask yourself:

  1. What am I doing well?
  2. Where can I improve?

You are going to make mistakes (even big ones), that’s inevitable if you are trying your best. Mistakes are learning experiences to do better later on. Learn to forgive yourself and let go of the pressure sooner rather than later. The sooner you forgive yourself, the sooner you can get back on track. Whatever your mistake may be, it’s important to remember that it is already over so why dwell on feeling bad?

Be Committed

In a generation focused on instant rewards and success, it can be difficult to stay motivated when times get tough. However, in order to be successful you need to be willing to commit to your pursuit. Pick something that you wish to achieve (career, relationship, hobby etc.) and stick to it longer than 5 seconds. Nothing is achieve over night, and things are rarely achieved with great ease; remember this and hold on tight.

Make the changes to your lifestyle that allow you to support whatever your commitment may be. People are too often guilty of blaming time (or lack their of) for their inability to commit to things. If this is something you really want, you need to actually commit to it and make the time to pursue it. Arrange your schedule to make your goal a priority.  Hard work yields desired results.

Practice Patience

Remember that most great things take time. In fact, in most instances things will take much longer than anticipated. You have to be willing to put in the time and be comfortable waiting in the place of not know when or how things will work out. The rewards aren’t always obvious or immediate so remain patient and trust the process.

Have Stamina, Consistency and Persistence

This concept ties into patience. You need to be willing to have the patience to wait while not becoming complacent. Always remember to continue to push in other areas, figuring out where improvements can be made. Resting is not failure, but giving up is. Develop your character to stay committed. Successful people value action, especially consistent action.

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The first step to achieving any sort of success in life is to make a single move. You will never know if something is right for you unless you try it. Slow and steady is the best approach. Break down your goals and approach them piece by piece – consistently. Every day, every week, whatever works for your life.

The world is yours to pursue. All beliefs are limiting. It is up to you where that limit is. 

How To Find Motivation

motivation guide

I would first of all like to open my post with an apology to my followers for how MIA I have been over the past couple of weeks. A trip to paradise coupled with a hectic schedule upon return has left me feeling overwhelmed, unfocused, and more importantly – unmotivated. If you need a few tips on finding your motivation when things seem to have unraveled, then I have got some great information for you!

Much like anything in life, motivation is going to ebb and flow throughout our journeys; sometimes naturally, and other times as a result of external forces. Accepting this notion as fact is one thing, but making the effort to change it is another. There are times in these periods of low motivation that something will spark within us, ignite our flame, and find us off again on a whim ready to take on the world. However, (much has been my personal case as of late) there are times when no matter what we try, we simply do not seem able to muster up the ability to get sh*t done.

This week I want to walk you through the 3 steps that I have used, and continue to use, to restart my motivation and get myself back on the path to success. As always, the audio version of this post is available on iTunes, SoundCloud, or Google Play.

1. Follow a Consistent Schedule

Whatever your goal or task at hand is, you need to make your approach to it consistent. Set aside a specific time each day (or however often it is you need to get whatever it is done), and make it the same every day you do it. Whether it is the 1 hour you are going to spend at the gym, or the 5 minutes you are going to spend meditating before an exam, make the pattern the same – EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. Consistency will be the key to your success.

As humans, we want nothing more than to have excuses for the things we don’t feel like doing. By incorporating whatever the activity may be into a regularly scheduled routine, you can replace the excuses with an obligation to get it done. You don’t think twice about going to work every day, so why should you think twice about doing the things you actually want to do in your life?

2. Commit Publicly

Do you have something you want to start (or re-start) pursuing? Well, there is no better way to commit yourself to it then to tell all – or at least one of – your friends or family. While Facebook and Twitter are inundated with so much useless jargon, they still serve as useful tools for sharing our thoughts, goals, and aspirations in a public arena. After all, we are much more likely to stick with getting something done if others are expecting it of us as well. It’s easy to lie to yourself, but no one ever wants to be known as that person who never follows through with what they say they’re going to.

3. Always Create New Challenges for Yourself

It is nearly impossible to find pleasure and motivation in completing tasks that are easy and monotonous. Sure, you’ll have fun for a day, but once the novelty wears off you will be bored, uninterested, and seeking an alternative. Trust me. If this is a state you currently find yourself in – be it work, school, or a special project (like me) – that is perfectly normal! The key when caught in one of these cycles is to take the initiative to create a new challenge for yourself.

Depending on your situation it could be as easy as asking your boss for a new task, or changing the deadlines for something your working on to a week sooner for that added pressure. Whatever the approach, use it as an opportunity to exhibit your initiative. New challenges = new opportunities.

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Life can get hectic, hard, and overwhelming. It’s important to remember that steering off course is natural. Having the ability to centre yourself back into focus  is the true testament to your trajectory in life.

We each only have one life, and it’s about time we all start working towards getting motivated and making the most of it.

 

How To Take Control of Your Life

CONTROL AND ACHIEVING RESPONSIBILITY

When was the last time you found yourself thinking about your current situation in life, and how making just one different decision in your past would’ve have changed the course of everything for the better? Perhaps if you had or had not of done that one thing, absolutely everything would be totally different. Maybe if you could have had more time, better support, or different resources things would have worked out how you wanted them to. These thoughts are destructive, and it’s finally time to stop and take control.

People tend to live as though their past controls their future, but this is only true if you allow it to be. Your memories of past events are biased, leaving you with feelings towards those situations that are distorted and often times, unresourceful. By learning to own the fact that you are in control of the decisions you have made and will make in your life, you are one step closer to achieving your desired outcomes.

As always the audio version of this post can be found on iTunes, Google Play, or SoundCloud.

1. Quit Passing the Blame and Let Go

All too often we don’t want to own up to the mistakes that we have made in the past. We blame other people, our previous circumstances, and our surroundings for not achieving the results we wanted. Not only is this tendency unattractive to others when trying to gain their support, but it also prevents us from altering our decision making process and impedes us from getting the results we want.

I want you to think of a time when something didn’t go your way. Did blaming someone/something else change that? Nope, definitely not. What can YOU do differently next time to alter your outcome?

We are in control of our own decisions. By learning to liberate ourselves from the decisions of the past (both our own and those of others) we can achieve so much more clarity on the path to being successful. Always reflect on what you have learned, and move forward knowing how you can be better. Do not worry about the others.

2. Learn to Accept and Take Care of Yourself

When you learn how to take 100% responsibility for things you want and the work you put into achieving them, you will begin to naturally attract the support of others without them being the ones in control.

We are all human, each respectively with our own flaws. By learning to accept our faults, and working towards being better each and every day we will find that the sense of control we feel in our day-to-day actions will naturally strengthen.

Continuously seek to develop traits that will aid in the process of getting what you want and nurture those characteristics as they develop. Reward yourself for your successes, but do not punish yourself for mis-steps; it is all part of the journey. In order to feel good you need to reassure yourself that you are doing good, so be sure to evaluate along the way and recognize your achievements – no matter how small.

3. Establish Your Priorities and Always Think Forward

If you feel like you are constantly at war with a never ending to-do list perhaps it is time to stop and assess how you got there. Don’t be afraid to turn away new opportunities that do not contribute to your overall end game. The end goal here is progress, if your actions are not contributing to your progress then why are you participating in them? Rid your time of useless activities.

Further to the idea that you should not waste your time on things not contributing to your overall success, it is important to recognize that you also aren’t going to do something you don’t believe is possible. If you tell yourself you can’t do something, then chances are you won’t. After all, why would you try to do something that your brain thinks you are incapable of doing? Prioritize your success, and work towards the end goal here. Think of the tools and actions you need to get there, and determine how you can and will get and do those things. Don’t be afraid to give it your all – even in unfamiliar territory.

Quit the “No’s” – Love Yourself – Strive Towards Success

How To Set Goals and Get What You Want

GUIDE TO SET GOALS

When was the last time you set a clear and definite goal and actually successfully achieved it?

Do you ever find your mind wandering towards hopes of how life could be or should be different, only to find yourself in the same position a few weeks later? Are you still wishing, hoping, and waiting for that big change to come? Well, if your answer is yes then you are not alone.

As always you can find the audio version (EP002 & EP003) on iTunes, Google Play, or SoundCloud 

Often times as millennials, we find our minds scattered with big, sporadic ideas and no proper sense of direction on how we will achieve them. We feel lost, overwhelmed, and ultimately hopeless that all of these plans are just plans and will never equate to anything more. It is not until we begin to break down these plans, figure out what the steps are that it will take to make them a reality, and set tangible goals, that we can finally start living out the life we have always dreamed. With a proper sense of direction and purpose, anything is achievable.

Choosing to take action towards setting goals will lead to outcomes you have always figured were out of reach. When you decide you want something and actually work towards achieving it, it won’t be long until you want more. Follow these 5 simple steps to mastering goal setting, achieving, and igniting your flame to set the world on fire. This is YOUR life, YOU get to choose how you want it to look.

1. Set Goals.

Set tangible, measurable goals and WRITE. THEM. DOWN. Accountability is key. By writing down your goals you will help to hold yourself accountable to what it is you are trying to achieve, and quite simply you will be able to remember what the initial task was that you set out to accomplish.

2. Determine what you are going to need to achieve your goals.

  • Do you have enough time  to produce the results you are looking for?
  • Will you need more money?
  • Do you have the quantity and quality of content you are hoping to provide?
  • Is there additional knowledge you need to obtain to be successful?

Understanding what you already have and what you are going to need will help you determine how long it will take you. Additionally, breaking your goal down into smaller, individual tasks makes the whole idea of achieving it less overwhelming.

3. Develop a [reasonable] timeline.

Studies have shown that we are more focused and committed to achieving things if we have structure indicating when we want to achieve them by.  Are you a procrastinator? If so then it is important to be honest with what you can accomplish and how long it will actually take you to do. After all, this timeline is for you so be realistic.

4. Be willing to embrace change and prepare for uncertainties.

Sometimes throughout the process, plans change, ideas change, resources change – be open to new possibilities and embrace change as it comes. By resisting the unexpected on your journey, you are really only resisting the likelihood of you actually achieving your goals. Instead use the unexpected as an opportunity to learn a new skills, pursue a new avenue, or perhaps change your end goal all together. The process is key to your own growth.

5. Reflect

Remember that your journey is your own. It may take more or less time than others. There is no such thing as a failure, only feedback. If you aren’t getting the results you want, recognize that you need to do something differently. Take the time to periodically check how you are doing and reflect on what you keep doing, stop doing, and start doing. In determining your areas of fault and success, you will be able to increase your efficiency and achieve your goals faster. Self-reflection is imperative to success.

If this all seems a little overwhelming, or you aren’t sure where to start please find my goal setting template here to help you get started.