The dictionary definition of relentless is: “to be of unwavering intensity, strength or pace; something that is constant or incessant”.
In a real life application, relentless is a state of mind that can allow you to achieve, survive, and overcome all despite what hurdles life my throw your way. The power is within you to choose to be relentless in your relationships, your career, or any other aspect of your life.
In your own life, you most certainly have predetermined opinions about what success looks like and you likely have opinions on what taking a risk will look like also (hint hint – I can almost bet you that you tend to think that risk will result in failure). However, you need to realize that no one can ever really prove what the outcome of a situation is going to be unless they take action. The opinion that taking a risk is going to result in failure, is merely just an opinion that you have accepted and is now consequently holding you back from acting on your potential.
The thing about people who are relentless is that despite these opinions, they continue to push forward. Despite the potential outcomes – good or bad – they continue through it all each an every day.
This week I am sharing with you how you too can become more relentless each and every day in order to work towards living your fullest potential. As always the audio version of this post is available on iTunes, SoundCloud, and Google Play.
1. Take Charge
This is your life. You are always in the drivers seat. You need to own that fact and act on it.
Relentless people take responsibility no matter the scenario. They are willing to take control and use whatever means necessary to conquer the task at hand.
Whether it’s a work project with a tight deadline, a conflict with a friend or partner, or some other sort of issue – take charge of the situation for making whatever outcome it is you WANT, happen. You are in control, you’ve got this, get out there, and get it done.
2. Work on Repetition
Successful people don’t put in work because they are successful, they are successful because they have put in the work. Figure out how you’re going to get to where you need to be and put in the work needed.
- You won’t get fit going to the gym once a month, you need to be consistent. The more you go to the gym, the more you will want to, and the more routine it will become.
- You won’t build relationships by never leaving your house, you need to make an effort. The more you get out and socialize, the more inclined you will feel to do so regularly.
Successful people are relentless. Successful people try; and not just once. Successful people are consistent and persistent on their pursuit of success. Make the work a habit and it won’t seem like work at all.
3. Forget The Excuses
Think of a time when something didn’t go your way. How did you react? How did you explain it to others? Did you sugar coat it? Did you blame someone or something else? We have all been there.
Next time you find yourself in this situation, own it. Say you’ve screwed up, be willing to admit when you’ve done wrong, and most importantly take responsibility to fix or change it next time.
Maybe you didn’t get that job because you bombed the interview, thats okay – next time make sure you practice. Maybe you failed that exam because you didn’t study, that’s okay – next time try studying. Maybe a friendship or relationship failed because you didn’t put in the effort, that’s okay – own it, apologize for it, and do better next time.
Relentless people are not perfect, nor do they claim to be. To be relentless you need to say “HEY! I messed up, BUT here is how I am going to fix it.”
4. Always Focus Forward
Every day you are going to face things you don’t want to do. Great success is rare because people tend to avoid the tasks they don’t want to do. The secret to success though, is challenging yourself and pushing past the discomfort of doing what you don’t want to. Next time your mind is telling you that you can’t do something, just push forward and do it.
You need to get comfortable being uncomfortable and push past that surface level discomfort to move towards the future. If you focus forward, past your self-created limitations, those seemingly impossible or undesirable limits of what you “didn’t want to do” will soon become the new normal. Get comfortable being uncomfortable, and keep moving yourself forward.
Normal people remain normal because they never challenge themselves. Relentless people succeed because they push themselves to grow beyond their limits.
In a day you may think a thousand thoughts, however unless you act on those thoughts they will simply remain just that – a thought. You are not your thoughts, you are your actions. You need to do what you want to be.