Adulthood. Ugh, what a struggle. At some point, it has had us feeling overwhelmed, overworked, and out of balance. Between work life, home life, and personal commitments we are spinning. And at the end of the day the only one who can reel it back into equilibrium is you.
So how do you cut through the chaos and start creating and living the life you want?
This week I have compiled 3 steps that I use to help minimize the overwhelm of responsibilities and maintain my happiness, social life, and sanity. As always, the audio version can be found on iTunes, SoundCloud, and Google Play.
1. Cut Out That Which is Not Necessary
Take a moment to reflect on your regular habits.
- Do you require that second cup of coffee?
- Do you have to set up that morning meeting?
- Do you need to be home to watch that show right at 6pm when it airs?
Are the things actually necessary, or are you doing all of these things because it is what you have always done? Start by eliminating the things that would “be nice to do” to start making more time for the things you actually want to do.
Reprioritize tasks that can be dealt with later.
2. Make a Damn Decision
In life we often pretend to make decisions.
We decide to commit to things, but only until they get hard or uncomfortable. When we get overwhelmed by the choices, we decide to stay where we are instead of trying something new (and potentially more difficult). We then end up buried in a pile of half completed tasks and pursuits, overwhelmed with the reality that end is nowhere in sight.
Instead, you need to commit to one thing, and stick with it longer than 5 seconds. Stick through the period of self doubt, the time someone tells you “HA you’ll never succeed”, and the time you completely forget what direction you were heading.
You can literally do anything you want with your life. It is your life after all. You just have to get out there and decide to do it.
3. Stop Using Time as a Crutch
We all walk around saying “There’s Not Enough Time”. However, when we are forced to do something (you get a flat tire, there is a family emergency, a deadline at work, and so on) we suddenly have time to deal with whatever it is.
Time is always there, we have just been designed to believe it is a limited resource. Create more time by being organized. Stop being late, write down your schedule, and plan ahead for what you can. Stop focusing on being “busy” and start focusing on what you enjoy doing with your time.
People make time for the things they want, so design your life around the things you love and you will feel less overwhelmed.
You need to respect time. If you often waste it watching hours of mindless Netflix, wandering around the mall window shopping, napping instead of being productive then you are not respecting time. Worry not, for we are all guilty of this. The key is to be able to recognize it.
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You don’t have to be smarter, richer, or more resourceful than the next busy person – you just need to want it more and be willing to dedicate your time to the cause.
If you want something badly enough and decide you will get it, you will. In order to stop the overwhelm you have to decide to start making changes. Focus your time and energy where you want and the busy feeling will soon become fulfillment.