How To Stop The Overwhelm

Adulthood. Ugh, what a struggle. At some point, it has had us feeling overwhelmed, overworked, and out of balance. Between work life, home life, and personal commitments we are spinning. And at the end of the day the only one who can reel it back into equilibrium is you.

So how do you cut through the chaos and start creating and living the life you want?

This week I have compiled 3 steps that I use to help minimize the overwhelm of responsibilities and maintain my happiness, social life, and sanity. As always, the audio version can be found on iTunes, SoundCloud, and Google Play.

1. Cut Out That Which is Not Necessary

Take a moment to reflect on your regular habits.

  • Do you require that second cup of coffee?
  • Do you have to set up that morning meeting?
  • Do you need to be home to watch that show right at 6pm when it airs?

Are the things actually necessary, or are you doing all of these things because it is what you have always done? Start by eliminating the things that would “be nice to do” to start making more time for the things you actually want to do.

Reprioritize tasks that can be dealt with later.

2. Make a Damn Decision

In life we often pretend to make decisions.

We decide to commit to things, but only until they get hard or uncomfortable. When we get overwhelmed by the choices, we decide to stay where we are instead of trying something new (and potentially more difficult). We then end up buried in a pile of half completed tasks and pursuits, overwhelmed with the reality that end is nowhere in sight.

Instead, you need to commit to one thing, and stick with it longer than 5 seconds. Stick through the period of self doubt, the time someone tells you “HA you’ll never succeed”, and the time you completely forget what direction you were heading.

You can literally do anything you want with your life. It is your life after all. You just have to get out there and decide to do it.

3. Stop Using Time as a Crutch

We all walk around saying “There’s Not Enough Time”. However, when we are forced to do something (you get a flat tire, there is a family emergency, a deadline at work, and so on) we suddenly have time to deal with whatever it is.

Time is always there, we have just been designed to believe it is a limited resource. Create more time by being organized. Stop being late, write down your schedule, and plan ahead for what you can. Stop focusing on being “busy” and start focusing on what you enjoy doing with your time.

People make time for the things they want, so design your life around the things you love and you will feel less overwhelmed.

You need to respect time. If you often waste it watching hours of mindless Netflix, wandering around the mall window shopping, napping instead of being productive then you are not respecting time. Worry not, for we are all guilty of this. The key is to  be able to recognize  it.

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You don’t have to be smarter, richer, or more resourceful than the next busy person – you just need to want it more and be willing to dedicate your time to the cause.

If you want something badly enough and decide you will get it, you will. In order to  stop the overwhelm you have to decide to start making changes. Focus your time and energy where you want and the busy feeling will soon become fulfillment.

Cut out that which is not necessary, decide what it is you want, and commit your time to the cause. Manage your life correctly, and things will come with ease.

How to Create a Meaningful Life

How to Live with Purpose and Intention

We all seek to live a life that answers the question “why”.

  • Why am I here?
  • Why am I doing this?
  • What is my purpose?

While somedays we feel as though we are on a clear path, we’ve got it all together, and we are heading in a certain direction other days are not so easy. Knowing who you are and that you have the choice to change your life is key in determining your purpose. You have the choice to determine your direction; good or bad.

As always, the audio version can be heard on SoundCloud, iTunes, and Google Play.

1. Stay True to Yourself

Admit to your imperfections. No human is perfect so learn to embrace this sense of honesty; imperfection is okay.

Remember why you started the path you are one; school, career, hobbies – why did you start these? Come back to your purpose particularly when you are feeling as though things aren’t working as intended.  Social media puts a ton of pressure on us to do more and to be more, but at the end of the day you need to focus on what works for you.

Ask yourself this. At the end of the day, what will make you happy and how are you going to get there? Stay true to you.

2. Focus on Your Value

As a society we have a tendency to be incredibly self-centred always focusing on “me”, that we forget all that we have available within ourselves to help enhance other’s lives. Finding your value; a sense of humour, knowledge, a listening ear, etc. is going to change someone’s life.

What can you provide to other people? Which problems can you help people solve? What do people in your life often call on you for?

Use these questions to reflect. Take a step back, figure out what skills you have to offer, and work on applying them in your life to make a difference. Too many of us simply exist, focus on staying true to yourself and use what you already have within you to enhance the lives of others.

There is meaning in a life that serves. Serve yourself so you can overflow into serving everyone around.

How to Set Goals in a New Year

Dreaming Big Every Day

So it’s now mid-January. How are your goals and resolutions going? Damn.

Let me guess, you either:

  1.  Missed the mark for starting your new years’ resolution (there’s always next year right?)
  2. Started out strong but fell off the wagon around day 5
  3.  Are killing it with your goals.

In order to be successful in achieving your goals you first need to understand the common struggles with setting goals, the flexibility available when things don’t seem to be going your way, and the strategies for making the most out of your 2018.  This week I have 4 simple steps to set you on track to taking control of the next 12 months and beyond.

As always you can listen to the audio version of this post on iTunes, Google Play, or SoundCloud.

1. Stop Setting Time Limitations

Nothing is ever going to go as scheduled. So what if it’s not January first – you have the choice to steer your life in whatever direction you choose, any day of the year! The great thing about navigating adulthood is that each day affords a new chance for you to decide which way you want to go.

If you’ve tried something new and you’ve failed, it’s okay to try again. If you’ve decided that you would rather steer course in a different direction, that’s fine too! You do not need the permission of a date on a calendar to start pursuing the things you have always wanted. Stop limiting yourself, and start chasing your dreams.

2. Find Purpose

Motivation is fleeting. What seems like a good idea one minute, may bore you the next. It’s important not to rely solely on your initial motivation, as it will most certainly fizzle. You instead need to determine the root of your motivation and use that as your purpose.

  • Why are you doing this?
  • What are you hoping to achieve?

Goals are only worth having if they enrich our lives so find your deeper purpose to create that value.

3. Establish a Meaningful Vision

Where is it you want to get to with your goals? What is it going to help you achieve? By creating the larger picture of what you want your life to be, you will more easily manifest these results into your reality. A vision of the future that matters to you will help you stay motivated to achieving your goals.

4. Remember There is No Finish Line

As a society we have created an illusion that some magical fairytale exists at “the end of our goals” – this is a lie. With every new achievement comes new responsibilities, and there is no real end game. Think of a time you started a new job with a few tasks. Chances are, over time, you accumulated more tasks, more responsibility, and more opportunities.

Life is always changing. You are always learning new skills.  You will never be able to predict what the future holds, but you need to be prepared to adapt to these unexpected changes.

Welcome all new opportunities with open arms and enrich your life. Start right now.

How to Have a Successful Mindset

Achieving Success

Success is not merely granted; it is achieved through hard work and persistence. In this life, there is a well defined difference between people who create their own life to become successful and people who settle for what life provides them. In order to create the life you want, you need the foundation for a mindset that allows you to succeed.

Remaining focused on the pathway to success can be challenging at times. There are often road blocks impeding your efforts – lack of inspiration, societal pressures, barriers to starting. When faced with these challenges,  you can say MEH and just give up OR you can persist and push through. You don’t have to be the smartest person, have access to the most resources, or be the most talented in order to be successful; you just have to make the effort to try, and continue see your dream through to the end even when times get tough.

As always, the audio version for this is available on SoundCloud, iTunes, and Google Play.

Believe in Yourself and Be Willing to Forgive

As with any pursuit in life, the journey is mental and your mentality will control your outcomes. If you believe in yourself that you can do whatever you set out to accomplish, you are subconsciously not going to back down. This ability is established from growing your self confidence (this concept was addressed in August’s post: How to Create Your Confidence). By having the confidence to know that you can accomplish things, you will lead yourself to believe that you can and will accomplish even more.

While getting stuff done is great, it is always important to check in with yourself and to make sure that you are working towards being your best self.

Ask yourself:

  1. What am I doing well?
  2. Where can I improve?

You are going to make mistakes (even big ones), that’s inevitable if you are trying your best. Mistakes are learning experiences to do better later on. Learn to forgive yourself and let go of the pressure sooner rather than later. The sooner you forgive yourself, the sooner you can get back on track. Whatever your mistake may be, it’s important to remember that it is already over so why dwell on feeling bad?

Be Committed

In a generation focused on instant rewards and success, it can be difficult to stay motivated when times get tough. However, in order to be successful you need to be willing to commit to your pursuit. Pick something that you wish to achieve (career, relationship, hobby etc.) and stick to it longer than 5 seconds. Nothing is achieve over night, and things are rarely achieved with great ease; remember this and hold on tight.

Make the changes to your lifestyle that allow you to support whatever your commitment may be. People are too often guilty of blaming time (or lack their of) for their inability to commit to things. If this is something you really want, you need to actually commit to it and make the time to pursue it. Arrange your schedule to make your goal a priority.  Hard work yields desired results.

Practice Patience

Remember that most great things take time. In fact, in most instances things will take much longer than anticipated. You have to be willing to put in the time and be comfortable waiting in the place of not know when or how things will work out. The rewards aren’t always obvious or immediate so remain patient and trust the process.

Have Stamina, Consistency and Persistence

This concept ties into patience. You need to be willing to have the patience to wait while not becoming complacent. Always remember to continue to push in other areas, figuring out where improvements can be made. Resting is not failure, but giving up is. Develop your character to stay committed. Successful people value action, especially consistent action.

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The first step to achieving any sort of success in life is to make a single move. You will never know if something is right for you unless you try it. Slow and steady is the best approach. Break down your goals and approach them piece by piece – consistently. Every day, every week, whatever works for your life.

The world is yours to pursue. All beliefs are limiting. It is up to you where that limit is. 

How To Set Goals and Get What You Want

GUIDE TO SET GOALS

When was the last time you set a clear and definite goal and actually successfully achieved it?

Do you ever find your mind wandering towards hopes of how life could be or should be different, only to find yourself in the same position a few weeks later? Are you still wishing, hoping, and waiting for that big change to come? Well, if your answer is yes then you are not alone.

As always you can find the audio version (EP002 & EP003) on iTunes, Google Play, or SoundCloud 

Often times as millennials, we find our minds scattered with big, sporadic ideas and no proper sense of direction on how we will achieve them. We feel lost, overwhelmed, and ultimately hopeless that all of these plans are just plans and will never equate to anything more. It is not until we begin to break down these plans, figure out what the steps are that it will take to make them a reality, and set tangible goals, that we can finally start living out the life we have always dreamed. With a proper sense of direction and purpose, anything is achievable.

Choosing to take action towards setting goals will lead to outcomes you have always figured were out of reach. When you decide you want something and actually work towards achieving it, it won’t be long until you want more. Follow these 5 simple steps to mastering goal setting, achieving, and igniting your flame to set the world on fire. This is YOUR life, YOU get to choose how you want it to look.

1. Set Goals.

Set tangible, measurable goals and WRITE. THEM. DOWN. Accountability is key. By writing down your goals you will help to hold yourself accountable to what it is you are trying to achieve, and quite simply you will be able to remember what the initial task was that you set out to accomplish.

2. Determine what you are going to need to achieve your goals.

  • Do you have enough time  to produce the results you are looking for?
  • Will you need more money?
  • Do you have the quantity and quality of content you are hoping to provide?
  • Is there additional knowledge you need to obtain to be successful?

Understanding what you already have and what you are going to need will help you determine how long it will take you. Additionally, breaking your goal down into smaller, individual tasks makes the whole idea of achieving it less overwhelming.

3. Develop a [reasonable] timeline.

Studies have shown that we are more focused and committed to achieving things if we have structure indicating when we want to achieve them by.  Are you a procrastinator? If so then it is important to be honest with what you can accomplish and how long it will actually take you to do. After all, this timeline is for you so be realistic.

4. Be willing to embrace change and prepare for uncertainties.

Sometimes throughout the process, plans change, ideas change, resources change – be open to new possibilities and embrace change as it comes. By resisting the unexpected on your journey, you are really only resisting the likelihood of you actually achieving your goals. Instead use the unexpected as an opportunity to learn a new skills, pursue a new avenue, or perhaps change your end goal all together. The process is key to your own growth.

5. Reflect

Remember that your journey is your own. It may take more or less time than others. There is no such thing as a failure, only feedback. If you aren’t getting the results you want, recognize that you need to do something differently. Take the time to periodically check how you are doing and reflect on what you keep doing, stop doing, and start doing. In determining your areas of fault and success, you will be able to increase your efficiency and achieve your goals faster. Self-reflection is imperative to success.

If this all seems a little overwhelming, or you aren’t sure where to start please find my goal setting template here to help you get started.