How To Practice Healthy Holiday Habits

Guilt-Free Holiday Season

The holidays are an exciting time of year! Between the Christmas parties, the cookies, the gifts, and the quality time spent with friends and family, you likely have a jam packed schedule and full stomach in your horizon. Trust me, I know firsthand and as exciting as this time of year can be, it can also be quite stressful and taxing on our minds and bodies.

This week I am providing 4 steps you can follow to help ease the stress of the holiday season. Christmas is meant to be enjoyed, and here is how! As always, you can find the audio version on iTunes, SoundCloud, and Google Play.

1. Get Plenty of Sleep

If you’re anything like me, you likely have a tendency to over commit. Between social gatherings, shopping, dinners, parties, baking, wrapping gifts, and so on, this time of year is busy! The last thing you need to be doing is getting sick.

Our immune systems rely on sleep to recharge and rebuild the cells we damaged throughout the day. While it may seem beneficial to ditch a few Z’s in favour of knocking out that To-Do list, I urge you to resist. Sleep is key, especially this time of year in order to maintain that pep in your step and provide you the momentum you need to get things done and get them done well!

Do not sacrifice your sleep – your mind, body, and immune system will thank you.

2. Avoid Restriction

Any of you who tried dieting or weight loss knows about restrictions all too well. You think that cutting carbs, cutting sugar, cutting fat, etc. is going to help you not gain weight during the holidays. I am here to encourage you to stop with the unnecessary added stress, and embrace the holiday food for what it is – delicious!

Trying to limit your intake is only going to result in binge. This is your chance to indulge! Those seemingly impossible last 5 pounds you are obsessing over are those slices of pizza you wanted on Friday, or the couple of beers you want to have out with your friends. You have to come to terms that those last 5 pounds are not worth your social life, those special moments with special people, and most importantly your sanity.

I am not saying the holidays are your excuse to go buck-wild and eat 5000 calories in a day, but if you accidentally do then hey! It’s done! It was one day, and you can try and be better the next.

Personally I find being mindful, and eating slowly help me listen to my body’s hunger and fullness cues. Maybe try starting with slightly smaller portions as opposed to a plate heaped high. You are better off to have to go up for seconds than to feel obligated to finish a massive plate just because its right in front of you!

Have your nana’s dessert that you’ve been waiting all year for! Try one of every flavour of cookie if you want. Satisfy your cravings and stop when you’re full. The holidays are only a few days so you might as well enjoy it. I promise the memories are worth the last 5 pounds.

3. Hydrate!

Water is crucial to maintain energy levels when its busy, helping to de-bloat after a big meal, and aiding in hydration of your skin (which if you’re anything like me your skin is CRYING this time of year). The best thing you can do before and after you indulge in a holiday meal is to maintain your hydration. This will help you to a) control your appetite, and b) flush your body out when you’ve had an extra slice of pie (or two). Water is our most underrated resource, so get it into you!

4. Enjoy Yourself

Holidays can be stressful, fast-paced, and overwhelming, but they are meant to be enjoyed. So have fun! Embrace the time with family, spread the joy, and indulge in some delicious goodies; no judgement here!

How To Accept and Use Feedback

How to Accept and Use Feedback

Receiving feedback is never very easy, particularly when that feedback is negative. In fact, your initial reaction when it comes to receiving criticism is likely going to be defensive. Even when you know the feedback you are getting is entirely accurate, it can sometimes be difficult to accept it graciously and move on.

Learning how to rewire your reactions when it comes to receiving negative feedback is essential in learning how to use that feedback to your advantage. The first step to growing as a person is to learn where it is that you can improve. No one is perfect, and therefore nobody expects you to be.

Follow these 3 simple steps to begin accepting and utilizing feedback for your own personal benefit. As always, the audio version of this podcast can be found on SoundCloud, iTunes, and Google Play.

1. Pick Your Audience

You are never going to satisfy or suit everyone. Focus your efforts on the people you actually want to please. If it’s a product or idea you are selling or pitching – who is your intended consumer? Design your content for them. If it’s a work project for a specific client – design your presentation towards what they want.

Sometimes in life it is important to recognize that your opinion or idea isn’t always going to best deliver your message. Listen to the feedback you are receiving and re-work your message to suit your audience’s needs.  You need to know who you are trying to talk to, work for, satisfy, and so on. Deliver your message in a way the intended audience will understand while still staying true to your own intentions. You can still be yourself and please others too provided you use their feedback to determine how best you can satisfy their needs.

2. Learn to Listen and Evaluate

Negative feedback: it’s uncomfortable, it can be hurtful, and it can really do a number on your self-esteem. While in these times it may seem easy enough to just nod along and tune whatever the other party is saying; you need to remember that the opportunity to receive feedback, even if it is negative, is an important one!

You never want to send out the signal that you are

  1. Not open for feedback in the future.
  2. Entirely “uncoachable” all together.

Take in the feedback you have been given, and rather than react to it; I encourage you to process. Take the time to really pick it apart (not in an obsessive way) in order to determine the validity of the feedback.

  • Was it something you already knew about yourself or your project?
  • Have you received similar feedback in the past?
  • How credible is the person giving you this feedback? (Maybe their opinion doesn’t really matter anyway).

Only by listening and really evaluating what the individual is trying to tell you can you really begin to process the response, and apply the necessary or recommended changes into your life.

3. Take a Hard Look In The Mirror

Mindfulness is integral to this process; knowing your behaviours, and recognizing where you can improve, and feedback is the perfect opportunity for you to reflect on just how mindful you are really being.

It is easy to blame other factors, people, and situations for why our work was received poorly, but that reaction is not helpful nor constructive in the long run. You are in control of your own life. Own it.

  • Where can you be better?
  • What can you do better?

Accept, but don’t dwell on what isn’t working and keep moving towards being better and doing better next time. Criticism can hurt, and that is okay. Remember, the difficult times in which we struggle are often the times that provide the most successes.

Embrace resistance, embrace feedback, and work on moving forward as a better self.

How To Behave Relentlessly

How to Achieve Success in Your Life

The dictionary definition of relentless is: “to be of unwavering intensity, strength or pace; something that is constant or incessant”.

In a real life application, relentless is a state of mind that can allow you to achieve, survive, and overcome all despite what hurdles life my throw your way. The power is within you to choose to be relentless in your relationships, your career, or any other aspect of your life.

In your own life, you most certainly have predetermined opinions about what success looks like and you likely have opinions on what taking a risk will look like also (hint hint – I can almost bet you that you tend to think that risk will result in failure). However, you need to realize that no one can ever really prove what the outcome of a situation is going to be unless they take action. The opinion that taking a risk is going to result in failure, is merely just an opinion that you have accepted and is now consequently holding you back from acting on your potential.

The thing about people who are relentless is that despite these opinions, they continue to push forward. Despite the potential outcomes – good or bad – they continue through it all each an every day.

This week I am sharing with you how you too can become more relentless each and every day in order to work towards living your fullest potential. As always the audio version of this post is available on iTunes, SoundCloud, and Google Play.

1. Take Charge

This is your life. You are always in the drivers seat. You need to own that fact and act on it.

Relentless people take responsibility no matter the scenario. They are willing to take control and use whatever means necessary to conquer the task at hand.

Whether it’s a work project with a tight deadline, a conflict with a friend or partner, or some other sort of issue – take charge of the situation for making whatever outcome it is you WANT, happen. You are in control, you’ve got this, get out there, and get it done.

2. Work on Repetition

Successful people don’t put in work because they are successful, they are successful because they have put in the work. Figure out how you’re going to get to where you need to be and put in the work needed.

For example:

  1. You won’t get fit going to the gym once a month, you need to be consistent. The more you go to the gym, the more you will want to, and the more routine it will become.
  2. You won’t build relationships by never leaving your house, you need to make an effort. The more you get out and socialize, the more inclined you will feel to do so regularly.

Successful people are relentless. Successful people try; and not just once. Successful people are consistent and persistent on their pursuit of success. Make the work a habit and it won’t seem like work at all.

3. Forget The Excuses

Think of a time when something didn’t go your way. How did you react? How did you explain it to others? Did you sugar coat it? Did you blame someone or something else? We have all been there.

Next time you find yourself in this situation, own it. Say you’ve screwed up, be willing to admit when you’ve done wrong, and most importantly take responsibility to fix or change it next time.

Maybe you didn’t get that job because you bombed the interview, thats okay – next time make sure you practice. Maybe you failed that exam because you didn’t study, that’s okay – next time try studying. Maybe a friendship or relationship failed because you didn’t put in the effort, that’s okay – own it, apologize for it, and do better next time.

Relentless people are not perfect, nor do they claim to be. To be relentless you need to say “HEY! I messed up, BUT here is how I am going to fix it.”

4. Always Focus Forward

Every day you are going to face things you don’t want to do. Great success is rare because people tend to avoid the tasks they don’t want to do. The secret to success though, is challenging yourself and pushing past the discomfort of doing what you don’t want to. Next time your mind is telling you that you can’t do something, just push forward and do it.

You need to get comfortable being uncomfortable and push past that surface level discomfort to move towards the future. If you focus forward, past your self-created limitations, those seemingly impossible or undesirable limits of what you “didn’t want to do” will soon become the new normal. Get comfortable being uncomfortable, and keep moving yourself forward.

Normal people remain normal because they never challenge themselves. Relentless people succeed because they push themselves to grow beyond their limits.

In a day you may think a thousand thoughts, however unless you act on those thoughts they will simply remain just that – a thought. You are not your thoughts, you are your actions. You need to do what you want to be.

How To Face Your Fears

What is it that you are most afraid of and how does that make you feel?

I know that even the thought of facing you fears can leave you feeling unsure, uncomfortable, and full of anxiety. However, I can promise that making the move towards confronting these fears can actually improve the quality of your life tenfold. This week I am offering 4 simple tips for working towards confronting that which you fear the most.

As always you can find the audio version of this post on SoundCloud, iTunes, and Google Play.

1. Identify What Scares You

In order to overcome your fear, you need to really understand the concept specific to the context of your fear itself

  1. What is it that you are afraid of?
  2. How does thinking of this fear make you feel? (Think of the cues your body sends – racing thoughts, shortness of breath, etc)

By accepting the symptoms you feel as an association with your fear, you can begin to narrow down what thoughts specifically trigger this reaction.

2. Learn To Differentiate Rational and Irrational

Fear is a totally useful evolutionary response. Thousands of years ago you would have needed fear to protect you from predators. However, you live in a different world now, and you need to learn to understand which fears are useful and which fears are wasting your energy and comprising your ability to live life as you should.

Your fear to speak in public though quite common and seemingly reasonable, isn’t actually a fear that is directly related to your wellbeing. yeah sure, you fear embarrassment or rejection for doing it but you aren’t going to die from it. Focus on the rationality. Why are you getting so worked up and is that level of discomfort rational? Ask your self these questions.

3. Develop a Plan

You know that the end goal here is to face your fear. So, how are you going to get there? The thought of facing your fear can be scary, overwhelming, and even panic inducing. In order to effectively (and easily) face your fear, you need to break it down into a more manageable approach.

For me, my fear was going into a burning building as part of my firefighter recruit training, and so I broke it down into the following steps:

  1. Show up at the specified location for training.
  2. Actively listen to the instruction to figure out what my task was exactly and how to do it safely.
  3. Make sure to wear all proper PPE, and double check to ensure it is properly sealed/worn correctly.
  4. Remain calm and focus on breathing throughout the exercise.

I know most of you are likely not training to be fire fighters and that’s okay. These steps are applicable to all sorts of different fears.

For example: If your fear is flying, start by buying a plane ticket, going to the airport, etc. If you’re afraid to try a new hobby, start by researching it online, finding local classes, etc.

By understanding what it will take to over come your fear you can break it down it to much less daunting tasks. You should not have to fear the process of overcoming your fear.

4. Focus on Your Thoughts

Often our fears are based on the worst case scenario. We typically utilize failure, death, rejection, and so on as an excuse to reinforce our fears.  What I want to encourage you to do in this case is to focus on taking the negative and flipping it into the best case scenario.

For example: Take “If I start my own business, I will fail and go bankrupt” and change it to “If I start my own business I will become wildly successful”

Your internal dialogue is what controls your reactions. While you obviously can’t control the outcomes of every scenario, you are able to control your perception. So think about what other factors of this situation are in your control. Remember, your mind will quit long before your body ever does.

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I promise you that the internal freedom you feel from facing that of which you are most afraid will enable you to continue to find freedom from other areas in your life. I know personally, that after overcoming my fear of live fire I am now so ready to conquer other things in my career and personal life that I have just been waiting on for so long in my mind – in fear of unknown outcomes.

At the end of the day, fear is a learned construct – fear of judgment or rejection, fear for your safety… It is is your control to unlearn it. Visualize the best case that could be, relax yourself, breathe, and conquer your fears.

How to Improve Your Communication

How to Deliver Your Intended Message

Communication is key in every aspect of our lives – our careers, our education, and our relationships. Pretty much anyone can communicate in some way shape or form, but not everyone is capable of doing so effectively. While some are naturally gifted with great communication; many are not and that is OKAY!Communication is a skill that can be learned, practiced, and improved over time.

In this post, I have compiled my top 3 strategies to help in achieving these effective communication skills in your own life. As always, the audio version can be found on iTunes, Google Play, or SoundCloud.

1. Force Yourself to Listen

First of all, take note that listening is not the same as waiting your turn to talk. Sometimes we are so focused on the next point we want to say that we don’t actually listen to the other person.  You can’t concentrate on what someone’s saying if you’re busy forming what you’re going to say next. Often, the speaker can read your facial expressions and know that your mind’s elsewhere.

Be present in conversation,  slow down and listen to what the speaker is saying so that you can genuinely respond based on the information they provide. We all get so afraid that our opinions are going to get lost in the discussion that we tend to disregard what the other person has to say.

So, next time you find yourself in a heated discussion with someone you genuinely care about, slow down and actually listen. What are they saying? Why do they feel that way? Perhaps paying attention will change your own perspective.

2. Pay Attention to Non-Verbal Cues

This one may sound simple (i.e. if a person is facing away from you they probably aren’t interested in the conversation). However, have you ever tried paying attention to your own cues? Are you:

  1. Looking up and down from your phone while in a conversation in person with someone?
  2. Distracted by other visuals in the room?
  3. Crossing your arms?
  4. Yelling or speaking in an aggressive tone?

These could all be indicators (some more aggressive and obvious than others) that will reflect negatively on you in the perception of the other person. Focus on your tone (which will be different for different audiences), eye contact, and on appearing engaged and interested.

So much is interpreted – or misinterpreted – through body language, it is equally important that we are representing the message we want physically as much as we are verbally.

3. Keep Stress In Check

How many times have you said something in an argument that you later regretted? Learning how to quickly relieve stress and return to a calm state in an efficient and time effective manner is a necessary skill when it comes to effective communication. It is only in a more relaxed state that you can actually practice the other two tips I have mentioned.

But how? How do we remain calm when our emotions are starting to spin out of control? Whether it’s a job interview that has you jittered, or a heated conversation with a colleague or partner remember the following:

  1.  Recognize that you are stressed (muscle tightness, shortness of breath, heart pounding, temperature rising).
  2. Breathe. Simple but easily forgotten. Remember that breathing is what will help you maintain that calm, cool, attitude even if you are internally losing your mind.
  3. Be open to compromise, and accept the circumstances. Some things are simply out of your control. If you can both bend a little perhaps you can find middle ground painlessly.

Maintaining your stress levels, will allow you to think rationally, be able to understand the other party’s point of view, and respond in a calm and meaningful way.

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Even if you are not a gifted speaker, you can still become highly effective in the art of communication. Of course, it takes time and effort to develop this skill, BUT the more effort and practice you put in, the more instinctive and effective your communication skills will become.

How to Embrace Uncertainty

How to Leave Your Comfort Zone

When was the last time you thought about making a change in your life? I will bet that it was probably as recent as today. Maybe you want to move to a new city, maybe you want to change your career, or maybe you just want to cut your hair a different way… However, you are afraid. The idea of this change makes you nervous, and uncomfortable, but have you asked yourself why?

As humans, our biology has wired us to seek certainty. We know and understand that taking a risk can often yield great rewards, and yet we choose to stay in our safe little bubbles, living life the same as we do day in and day out.  Back thousands of years ago, humans did live in a scary world where you could be eaten by predator at night, or you could die at age 20 of disease. The threats that have ingrained fear into our biology are significantly less now thanks to technology and medicine and yet we still live in fear. Now, the aversion to risk that has kept humans alive for thousands of years, is the one thing actually preventing us from living.

Uncertainty is where new happens. I am here to remind you that you can’t do anything new without doing something different and so here are 3 tips on what you can do to embrace the uncertain, take more risks, and get a little uncomfortable. As always the audio version is available on iTunes, SoundCloud, and Google Play.

1. EXPLORE. EXPLORE. EXPLORE.

Think about this statement:

Our comfort zones are never really comfortable after all

 

You are afraid to quit your job that you don’t like because it’s comfortable. The job pays your bills, yes, but you don’t like it so is that really comfortable after all? I would say no.

The more you try to stick to the confines of your so called comfort zone, the more unfulfilled and uncomfortable you will feel later on. You need to get out and explore new places, new opportunities, and new ideas. No one has an answer to life, it is for you to discover. Be open to the possibilities you could achieve and make a move towards finding out how to get them. You’ll never find them if you don’t go looking!

2. Be Content with Looking Foolish

One of our greatest hindrances in personal development is fear. Our fear of uncertainty often stems from our fear of judgement – when taking a so-called “risk” we fear to others we might look stupid, awkward, or weird. We fear that people may perceive us as a failure if our new path doesn’t pan out. However,  despite other people’s opinions you can be sure that your life will go on regardless of outcome.

People are always going to be jealous of other people who are taking risks. Why? Because they are likely too afraid to do it themselves. When people think ill of you, that is a reflection of them  so, you have to let them judge you. Be confident in your decisions and live your life true to your intention, no one else’s.

3. Think Less, Do More.

Whenever there is opportunity to make a change towards uncertainty, our minds tend to drift towards the negative. We fear that the unknown holds a lot of bad and while this is true, the unknown also holds a lot of good. In fact, the unknown is overflowing with opportunity.

Instead of wasting your time thinking and worrying about all of the bad that could happen, start doing things that will get you closer to the good (A.K.A. your goals). The less you try to make sense of what could happen, the more time you will have to actually work towards getting what you want AND the more easily you will find the stress associated with worrying magically disappear.

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Success will never be certain, but not doing anything at all is the worst thing you can do. What makes you uncomfortable? Do that more. Eat alone. Talk to strangers. Go somewhere you have never been.

Do not let uncertainty stop you from creating your life.

How to Practice Self-Love

2 Steps to Loving Yourself

Self-love, what is it? You see it preached everywhere on the internet –

LOVE YOURSELF – EMBRACE YOUR FLAWS – BE THE REAL YOU

A seemingly nice concept to think about, but for some not so easy to achieve in practice. As someone who has never really struggled with this, I would like to share a single piece of advice that has always resonated with me and made self-love easy:

At the end of the day it is your CHOICE to accept yourself as you are. You are gifted one life, that’s it – why waste it in self-loathing when you could instead CHOOSE to enjoy it and enjoy yourself in all of your messy, imperfect glory.

Self-love is integral to determining your success in life, your career, your relationships, and so on. Valuing yourself and knowing what you deserve will guide you to make choices reflective of this value. Self-love grows from actions we take physically, psychologically, and spiritually. If this is something you struggle with and need some strategies to improve your mindset and afford yourself the love that you deserve, then these 4 tips are for you.

As always, the audio version for this post is available on iTunes, SoundCloud, and Google Play.

1. Set Boundaries and Protect Yourself

In order to begin focusing on truly loving yourself, you need to be mindful of your own needs. Stop focusing so much on what will make others happy and start focusing on what it is that is going to make YOU happy?

Remember that it is okay to say no to people when you don’t want to participate in something. People who truly care will understand, and the people in your life who get defensive when you turn them down are the kind you need to get rid of!

There are simply not enough hours in a day to waste on people who empty your bucket. I promise that you will love and respect yourself more in the long term if you tell these people to get lost (or maybe something a little nicer).

You will love yourself more when you set limits or say no to work, relationships, or activities that deplete you physically, emotionally and spiritually. Don’t worry about the fear that you are missing out on something great, you have the whole rest of your life to recreate the opportunity if you really want it.

2. Act on What You Need, Not What You Want

Next, I encourage you to take a moment to focus on what you are really thinking, how you are really feeling, and what it is you really want.

Are you frustrated with your job? Are you feeling like the relationships you have in your life are draining your energy? What are you going to need to do to change these circumstances?

While some solutions may seem tempting as a quick fix, they likely aren’t keeping you centred and focused on the path to making a change. Instant gratification can be tempting, but does not often yield long term benefits. By straying from these temptations, you will in turn set yourself up to change the automatic behaviours that have kept you stuck for so long.

3. Use the “It’s Already Over Mentality”

We have all made mistakes, said foolish things, or down right embarrassed ourselves in public. I’ve been there, and I know you have too! The difficult part about these times, is not letting these scenarios consume you. You need to quit replaying the scenarios in your head over and over thinking of the things you wish you had said or done.

Recognizing the negative self-talk is the hard part, but once you’ve gotten there and know you are doing it, correcting it is easy. THE SITUATION HAS ALREADY HAPPENED. Why obsess over something you can’t change or make different?

We can be so hard on ourselves. Cut yourself some slack, these lapses in judgement and decision making ability prove that we are actual humans; we are not perfect. Remind yourself it is over, and there will be another opportunity to prove to the world you are better than your mistakes. Just remember, always move forward.

4. Live With Intention

You will accept and love yourself more, no matter what is happening in your life, when you begin to live with purpose and design. Focus more on WHAT you want in your life, and worry less about HOW you are going to achieve that. Afford yourself the opportunity to dream big becase you deserve it! Whatever the path is you choose, make sure that your actions are helping you to get there.

Your purpose doesn’t have to be crystal clear, (in fact it rarely is)! However if you have a general idea of where you want to go in life, your decisions should support this intention. Think of how good you will feel about yourself when you are actually trying to achieve success. You will love yourself more if you see yourself accomplishing what you set out to do! You are capable of doing this.

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Self-love is about knowing and honoring your needs, wants and wishes. It’s about understanding youself, including your thoughts and feelings. It’s about being kind, compassionate, and forgiving with yourself. You are capable of self-love with the right mentality and focus.

In order to start living the life you want, you need to start with yourself.

How To Free Yourself

3 Step Guide

What does freedom feel like?

Overwhelmed with choices and inundated with fear, it is within our control to choose the life we want to live. Whether it is the freedom to make the choices actually want, [free of guilt and free of judgement] or the freedom of knowing that the creation of our lives is in our own hands – I am here to teach you how. This week I offer 3 simple steps to help get you started in determining what it is you want, and how you are going to get there.

As always, the audio version of this post is available on iTunes, SoundCloud, or Google Play.

1. Accept Unwillingness

As humans, we tend to want a lot of things. Often times however, it is the idea of the thing rather than the actual thing itself that is so appealing. If you’re not willing to put in extra hours or set aside the extra money for whatever your idea may be (i.e. a new job, a new car, mastering a skill, etc.) then perhaps it is time you re-evaluate how badly you really want it. Just because you like the idea of something doesn’t mean you are actually willing to work for it, and that is totally okay.

Any obstacle you face can either be framed as willing or unwilling to overcome.  By accepting the fact that you are unwilling to do the work needed to get you whatever it is you are wanting, you are in turn freeing your mind of guilt and allowing yourself room to focus on achieving whatever it is that you actually want. There is no need to feel bad about something you never really wanted anyway.

2. Be Realistic

We each have a tendency to build up scenarios in our minds. We assume judgment, failure, and embarrassment to be certain when taking risks or putting ourselves out there. While these thoughts can be overwhelming I want to encourage you to put it into perspective; Is sharing an idea at work going to get you fired? Is going for a 20 minute walk going to be that hard?

If you feel overwhelmed in scenarios such as those mentioned, I encourage you to break it down into smaller components. What are the steps you will need to take to accomplish the task? View them each as individual milestones. Try not to stress about the bigger picture, for the greater task is not important. It is the life that will become available to you on the other side that is most important, when you look at a scenario realistically and free yourself of fear.

3. Determine Your Direction

It is all too easy to compare our lives to other’s. You convince yourself that your life would be better if you had what they have. You need to let that thought go. Learn to replace the envy you have with a willingness to change your own life.

Where is it that you would like to go? What are you trying to accomplish? What is it that you actually want?

Figure out where it is you want to go, and free your mind of the negativity associated with not getting to where everyone else is at.

This is YOUR life and YOUR direction. You can choose to be free.

How to Find Inspiration

Find Your Motivation
Life is funny. Some days you can be ready to take on the world where as others you could not care less about getting a single thing done. While I love what I do here on the internet, sometimes the ideas just don’t flow naturally. While I do keep a running list of content ideas, things don’t always speak to me and right now that is exactly the case. 
While most of you reading this may not run a website or host a podcast, you can still apply this in other aspects of your life; maybe you don’t feel fulfilled at work, or maybe you feel uninspired in some other aspect of your life where you know you need to make a change, but just don’t feel the desire to actually do it. I am going to give you four simple tips I use at these times in my own life.
As always, the audio version for this podcast can be found on iTunes, SoundCloud, and Google Play.

 Understand That This is Normal

As with any situation in life there are always going to be highs and lows. Can you imagine if there wasn’t and that life was stagnant? What a boring and pointless life that would be! Some days your inspiration will be in abundance, while others it will not. This is okay.,this is exciting, and most importantly this is normal.


The only constant thing in life is change, and change is only temporary. So, when you are riding a high make sure to appreciate it, but remember that it will not last forever. Likewise, use the low points as opportunities to learn, grow, and change. You will always bounce back, even from the worst of times.

Build Better Relationships.

Go out and talk to people (or text them from the comfort of your bed). Talk to your friends, your mentors, people you know you can connect with; share ideas, and find inspiration. By expanding your mind through communicating, you can escape your own situation by living vicarously through someone else and gather new information that you can apply to your own life.

Get Out of Your Comfort Zone

Be willing to try something new. To get out of a rut, you need to know what is keeping you in it. Often our routines can be our greatest help, and our most difficult obstacle. Monotony can lead to complacency and boredom. Getting out of your comfort zone can shake this; try a new approach to whatever your normal routine is – travel (explore somewhere you’ve never been), try a new kind of food, sign up for a new hobby – spark a change for the sake of stretching that part of your brain. Trigger the fear of the unknown within you; that fear can fuel your inspiration.

Practice Self Care

This is so key. I encourage self care in all forms, the first however being movement. Regular exercise and simply moving your body will improve your cognitive function. Movement changes how you feel, so if you’re feeling lazy get up, get those endorphins flowing and allow the energy to manifest into your life.
Self care doesn’t stop at exercise though, so make sure to take the time to connect with yourself. Whether this means taking a hike to think to yourself, or simply unplugging for 30 mins to journal or meditate do something with intention to remind yourself that you matter to YOU.
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The fluctuations of inspiration are normal. Life ebbs and flows – be patient and change will come as it always does. Keep moving and your flow will return; you can’t force it but you can take action and put in the work that will grant you the change you are desiring. You get what you give, so if you take action you will receive the same.

In the end you will always be okay, don’t feel defeated by this current lack of inspiration – you will find what you need in due time.

How to Have a Successful Mindset

Achieving Success

Success is not merely granted; it is achieved through hard work and persistence. In this life, there is a well defined difference between people who create their own life to become successful and people who settle for what life provides them. In order to create the life you want, you need the foundation for a mindset that allows you to succeed.

Remaining focused on the pathway to success can be challenging at times. There are often road blocks impeding your efforts – lack of inspiration, societal pressures, barriers to starting. When faced with these challenges,  you can say MEH and just give up OR you can persist and push through. You don’t have to be the smartest person, have access to the most resources, or be the most talented in order to be successful; you just have to make the effort to try, and continue see your dream through to the end even when times get tough.

As always, the audio version for this is available on SoundCloud, iTunes, and Google Play.

Believe in Yourself and Be Willing to Forgive

As with any pursuit in life, the journey is mental and your mentality will control your outcomes. If you believe in yourself that you can do whatever you set out to accomplish, you are subconsciously not going to back down. This ability is established from growing your self confidence (this concept was addressed in August’s post: How to Create Your Confidence). By having the confidence to know that you can accomplish things, you will lead yourself to believe that you can and will accomplish even more.

While getting stuff done is great, it is always important to check in with yourself and to make sure that you are working towards being your best self.

Ask yourself:

  1. What am I doing well?
  2. Where can I improve?

You are going to make mistakes (even big ones), that’s inevitable if you are trying your best. Mistakes are learning experiences to do better later on. Learn to forgive yourself and let go of the pressure sooner rather than later. The sooner you forgive yourself, the sooner you can get back on track. Whatever your mistake may be, it’s important to remember that it is already over so why dwell on feeling bad?

Be Committed

In a generation focused on instant rewards and success, it can be difficult to stay motivated when times get tough. However, in order to be successful you need to be willing to commit to your pursuit. Pick something that you wish to achieve (career, relationship, hobby etc.) and stick to it longer than 5 seconds. Nothing is achieve over night, and things are rarely achieved with great ease; remember this and hold on tight.

Make the changes to your lifestyle that allow you to support whatever your commitment may be. People are too often guilty of blaming time (or lack their of) for their inability to commit to things. If this is something you really want, you need to actually commit to it and make the time to pursue it. Arrange your schedule to make your goal a priority.  Hard work yields desired results.

Practice Patience

Remember that most great things take time. In fact, in most instances things will take much longer than anticipated. You have to be willing to put in the time and be comfortable waiting in the place of not know when or how things will work out. The rewards aren’t always obvious or immediate so remain patient and trust the process.

Have Stamina, Consistency and Persistence

This concept ties into patience. You need to be willing to have the patience to wait while not becoming complacent. Always remember to continue to push in other areas, figuring out where improvements can be made. Resting is not failure, but giving up is. Develop your character to stay committed. Successful people value action, especially consistent action.

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The first step to achieving any sort of success in life is to make a single move. You will never know if something is right for you unless you try it. Slow and steady is the best approach. Break down your goals and approach them piece by piece – consistently. Every day, every week, whatever works for your life.

The world is yours to pursue. All beliefs are limiting. It is up to you where that limit is.