How To Ace a Job Interview

3 Step Guide to Better Interviews

Gone are the days where you can graduate college/university and walk into a job with nothing more than your degree. Recruiters are now skimming hundreds of resumes for volunteer work, internships, additional courses, and anything else that can set you apart from the plethora of well educated individuals. While managing to land a job interview is a feat in its own, successfully getting the job is a whole new ballgame.

Trust me when I say that I have had my fair share of terrible interviews

1. Do Your Research.

So, you have managed to get an interview. Congratulations! Obviously you have the necessary skills, but now you need to learn what it is exactly that the recruiters are looking for. Lucky for you, the internet makes it easy!

  • Search the positions on linked in – know what kind of people/experience have that position
  • Research background info on the company, know their values/mission and how you could fit

2. Prepare Your Answers and Practice Out Loud

Being prepared may seem like cliche advise, however preparedness is not to be taken lightly.

  • Look up questions specific/typical to that job
  • Write down potential answers
  • Practice reading them outloud to create a more natural sound
  • Know what you’re saying and make it authentic

3. Ask Questions.

The number one thing people often forget to do is ask the recruiters questions. While you may feel as though asking questions makes you seem unprepared, recruiters see this as an opportunity to understand your interest in the position. While questions are encouraged, make sure that the questions you are asking about are meaningful and worth the time

  • Ask job specific, not general – i.e. what do you forsee as the biggest challenge?

 

 

How to Find Your Own Happiness

Finding Happiness

Happiness.  Easy for some, elusive for many.  While many may disagree, I believe that you can make decisions which lead to overall happiness and contentment in life. It may not be easy; in fact at times it will be seemingly impossible, but by making the effort to monitor your thoughts and actions, and steer course towards a more balanced present, happiness can and will be achieved.

Taking time to reflect, and making conscious steps to make your life happier, really does work.

As always you can listen to the audio version on SoundCloud, iTunes, or Google Play.

1. Choose The Right Opportunities

For most, happiness is an achievement; the result of effort and intention – not a mere coincidence. Happiness in itself is not a decision, instead it is the result of the decision to pursue attitudes and behaviours that will result in happiness over unhappiness. The key to obtaining happiness is to put yourself into environments that increase your probability and to avoid those which are detrimental or draining on our already scarce resource.

2. Foster Forgiveness

Bitterness serves as an anchor; a catalyst for stagnation. Holding onto anger and grief has been proven time and time again to negatively affect our mental and physical well being. While simply saying “get over it” is easier said than done – learning to foster forgiveness towards that which we cannot control is integral to the process of moving onwards and upwards.

  1. Recall the hurt.
  2. Try to empathize with the perpetrator – why did they do what they did?
  3. Remember a time when you were granted forgiveness.
  4. Commit to the forgiveness – mentally or physically (i.e. write it down).
  5. Do not dwell not the hurt/anger, hold on to the forgiveness.

Mulling will not get you very far, this I can assure you. Let it go, move along, don’t let the actions of other control your happiness.

3. Fake It Until You Feel Better

While the principle of this seems silly – you are sad/upset/angry/hurt why pretend to be something you are not (i.e. happy)? The psychology behind this practice is proven.  Smiling alone can induce the feeling of happiness. All feelings are the result of actions, by acting happier your brain will begin to believe that you are actually happier.

4. Put Your Negativity In Check

Negativity will always be the default. It is easy to be negative, because positivity makes us uncomfortable.  Negative thoughts serve no real useful purpose and can directly contribute to negative emotions.  Negative thoughts leave us in a state of hopelessness, thinking we will never have enough, be enough, or find enough.

Given that negativity is the norm, it can be difficult to identify in ourselves when we have shifted into this state of mind. In order to learn how to change negative thoughts, you must first learn to recognize them. Start paying attention to your thought patterns; practice mindfulness. Pay attention to your present. Focusing too much on the past (what could have been) or the future (what may never come) is neither useful nor productive.

If you can catch these thoughts before they gain momentum, you will better be able to flip the problem into perspective and deal with it in a much more positive light.

5. Engage In Meaningful Activities

Think about how you have spent the last 24 hours.

Were you productive? Did you get something accomplished?

If no, how are you feeling?

If yes, I can bet you are feeling pretty good. Studies have shown that in order to get more [happiness] out of life, you have to put more into it. People are seldom happier than when they achieve a sense of flow in their lives; a state of mind in which you become absorbed in a meaningful task or challenge. While flow-inducing activities seldom come naturally, the reward far outweighs the investment. So determine something you wish to achieve and work for it. Reap the rewards of your efforts and feel truly happy.

Find your fuel. Ignite your fire. Chase your happiness. Great things will come.

How To Take Control of Your Life

CONTROL AND ACHIEVING RESPONSIBILITY

When was the last time you found yourself thinking about your current situation in life, and how making just one different decision in your past would’ve have changed the course of everything for the better? Perhaps if you had or had not of done that one thing, absolutely everything would be totally different. Maybe if you could have had more time, better support, or different resources things would have worked out how you wanted them to. These thoughts are destructive, and it’s finally time to stop and take control.

People tend to live as though their past controls their future, but this is only true if you allow it to be. Your memories of past events are biased, leaving you with feelings towards those situations that are distorted and often times, unresourceful. By learning to own the fact that you are in control of the decisions you have made and will make in your life, you are one step closer to achieving your desired outcomes.

As always the audio version of this post can be found on iTunes, Google Play, or SoundCloud.

1. Quit Passing the Blame and Let Go

All too often we don’t want to own up to the mistakes that we have made in the past. We blame other people, our previous circumstances, and our surroundings for not achieving the results we wanted. Not only is this tendency unattractive to others when trying to gain their support, but it also prevents us from altering our decision making process and impedes us from getting the results we want.

I want you to think of a time when something didn’t go your way. Did blaming someone/something else change that? Nope, definitely not. What can YOU do differently next time to alter your outcome?

We are in control of our own decisions. By learning to liberate ourselves from the decisions of the past (both our own and those of others) we can achieve so much more clarity on the path to being successful. Always reflect on what you have learned, and move forward knowing how you can be better. Do not worry about the others.

2. Learn to Accept and Take Care of Yourself

When you learn how to take 100% responsibility for things you want and the work you put into achieving them, you will begin to naturally attract the support of others without them being the ones in control.

We are all human, each respectively with our own flaws. By learning to accept our faults, and working towards being better each and every day we will find that the sense of control we feel in our day-to-day actions will naturally strengthen.

Continuously seek to develop traits that will aid in the process of getting what you want and nurture those characteristics as they develop. Reward yourself for your successes, but do not punish yourself for mis-steps; it is all part of the journey. In order to feel good you need to reassure yourself that you are doing good, so be sure to evaluate along the way and recognize your achievements – no matter how small.

3. Establish Your Priorities and Always Think Forward

If you feel like you are constantly at war with a never ending to-do list perhaps it is time to stop and assess how you got there. Don’t be afraid to turn away new opportunities that do not contribute to your overall end game. The end goal here is progress, if your actions are not contributing to your progress then why are you participating in them? Rid your time of useless activities.

Further to the idea that you should not waste your time on things not contributing to your overall success, it is important to recognize that you also aren’t going to do something you don’t believe is possible. If you tell yourself you can’t do something, then chances are you won’t. After all, why would you try to do something that your brain thinks you are incapable of doing? Prioritize your success, and work towards the end goal here. Think of the tools and actions you need to get there, and determine how you can and will get and do those things. Don’t be afraid to give it your all – even in unfamiliar territory.

Quit the “No’s” – Love Yourself – Strive Towards Success

How To Set Goals and Get What You Want

GUIDE TO SET GOALS

When was the last time you set a clear and definite goal and actually successfully achieved it?

Do you ever find your mind wandering towards hopes of how life could be or should be different, only to find yourself in the same position a few weeks later? Are you still wishing, hoping, and waiting for that big change to come? Well, if your answer is yes then you are not alone.

As always you can find the audio version (EP002 & EP003) on iTunes, Google Play, or SoundCloud 

Often times as millennials, we find our minds scattered with big, sporadic ideas and no proper sense of direction on how we will achieve them. We feel lost, overwhelmed, and ultimately hopeless that all of these plans are just plans and will never equate to anything more. It is not until we begin to break down these plans, figure out what the steps are that it will take to make them a reality, and set tangible goals, that we can finally start living out the life we have always dreamed. With a proper sense of direction and purpose, anything is achievable.

Choosing to take action towards setting goals will lead to outcomes you have always figured were out of reach. When you decide you want something and actually work towards achieving it, it won’t be long until you want more. Follow these 5 simple steps to mastering goal setting, achieving, and igniting your flame to set the world on fire. This is YOUR life, YOU get to choose how you want it to look.

1. Set Goals.

Set tangible, measurable goals and WRITE. THEM. DOWN. Accountability is key. By writing down your goals you will help to hold yourself accountable to what it is you are trying to achieve, and quite simply you will be able to remember what the initial task was that you set out to accomplish.

2. Determine what you are going to need to achieve your goals.

  • Do you have enough time  to produce the results you are looking for?
  • Will you need more money?
  • Do you have the quantity and quality of content you are hoping to provide?
  • Is there additional knowledge you need to obtain to be successful?

Understanding what you already have and what you are going to need will help you determine how long it will take you. Additionally, breaking your goal down into smaller, individual tasks makes the whole idea of achieving it less overwhelming.

3. Develop a [reasonable] timeline.

Studies have shown that we are more focused and committed to achieving things if we have structure indicating when we want to achieve them by.  Are you a procrastinator? If so then it is important to be honest with what you can accomplish and how long it will actually take you to do. After all, this timeline is for you so be realistic.

4. Be willing to embrace change and prepare for uncertainties.

Sometimes throughout the process, plans change, ideas change, resources change – be open to new possibilities and embrace change as it comes. By resisting the unexpected on your journey, you are really only resisting the likelihood of you actually achieving your goals. Instead use the unexpected as an opportunity to learn a new skills, pursue a new avenue, or perhaps change your end goal all together. The process is key to your own growth.

5. Reflect

Remember that your journey is your own. It may take more or less time than others. There is no such thing as a failure, only feedback. If you aren’t getting the results you want, recognize that you need to do something differently. Take the time to periodically check how you are doing and reflect on what you keep doing, stop doing, and start doing. In determining your areas of fault and success, you will be able to increase your efficiency and achieve your goals faster. Self-reflection is imperative to success.

If this all seems a little overwhelming, or you aren’t sure where to start please find my goal setting template here to help you get started.