So, you got rejected. It hurts right? Really sucks? Feels not so great? Jobs. Relationships. Everything else that got away. We have all been there. Rejection isn’t easy, but it certainly doesn’t have to be as difficult as we often make it out to be. The way in which you respond to it can determine your future. Are you going to allow it to hold you back, or will you utilize the chance to grow stronger, more resilient, and better prepared the next time?
1. Reframe the Rejection
The easiest thing you can do when faced with rejection is to slip into the “I’m so stupid” mentality. Approaching your defeat with this attitude is only going to hold you down. If you aren’t there to lift yourself up, no one else will be either. It’s important in these times, to reaffirm the efforts you have made and remember, “I pushed myself to my limits”. By exercising this compassion you can begin to see the new possibilities provided by this misfortune.
2. Do Not Let It Define Your Limitations
A single case of rejection (or perhaps more than one) is not indicative of the end. Not getting the job you wanted, or being rejected by the one you ‘love’ does not discredit who you are as a person or the skills and attributes you have to offer the world. It is not the end.
Remember, one incident or individual is not reflective of all that you have and are.
3. Seek the Learning Opportunity
Rejection doesn’t have to be the end. In fact, rejection can serve as a humbling experience because it reminds you that you don’t know/have everything. With the right mindset, rejection can serve as an opportunity for motivation to do and be better.
Yes. You lost opportunity x or person y, but what did you learn? What can you do differently next time? And what is it that you want?