Have you ever experienced the feeling of being alone? Well, it’s now February, Forever-Alone-uary, whichever you choose; an absolute pertinent time to discuss this issue.
Let’s be honest, whether you are in a relationship or not, loneliness has a tendency to rear it’s head from time to time. It can be especially hard this time of year as everyone shoves their relationships in your face, but your love life doesn’t have to be the only place you face this challenge. In the work place, at home, or at your pass time of choice establishing and maintaining relationships can get difficult once all of the components of real life “adulthood” start to enter into your life.
Loneliness can certainly take its toll if you so allow it to. As you dwell in your “Woe is me. Why am I alone? I will be alone forever” mentality, life is passing by without you, and with it passes the chance to cope and move past this hopeless state of mind. This week I am providing 4 steps I actively use to combat loneliness in my day-to-day life.
1. Normalize the Feeling
You are not alone in feeling lonely. Everyone from solo entrepreneurs who work from home and don’t get out often, to the most social of individuals face the feeling of loneliness from time to time. As society becomes more connected through our phones and technology, there is greater feeling of disconnect on a face-to-face level. This is the new normal, and I can guarantee each of you have felt this at least once. You’re not crazy or alone at all, your loneliness is in fact a commonality you share with so many other people.
2. Build Yourself Up
In order to full accept the value you hold, and to be okay with being alone from time to time, you have to create a good relationship with yourself. You need to abandon your self-deprecating thoughts when it comes to doing things alone, because:
- You don’t know what other people are thinking.
- You really shouldn’t care either way.
Learn the importance of treating yourself. Join that yoga class, go see that exhibit or movie you’ve been wanting to; even if it means you have to do it alone. Yes, having company is nice, but you are with yourself you’re entire life – embrace it and rejoice in the comfort of being able to enjoy that fact.
3. Join a Network Online
As we get older our interest begin to shift. You likely have found yourself drifting from relationships with people you used to spend hours with doing whatever with simply because you have each established your own new lives, new interests, and new trajectories. While this sad reality can leave you feeling empty and alone, the internet has come to save the day.
I know I just said that technology is ruining our ability to feel truly connected, but the internet serves as a great tool to find a like minded community that you can then transition into real life should you so choose (or not!). There are 1000s of online communities waiting for you to discover, and share your experiences with likeminded individuals. Whether your interests are in fitness, entrepreneurship, couponing, or parenting an online community exists out there for you.
These groups/communities can provide a sense of accountability you may not be finding in your “real world” relationships. Use these networks to actually interact with people, support others, and ask for advice. Remember, even when you may feel absolutely alone. Someone is out there somewhere waiting for you.
Whether it’s one hour or one day every week, month, or year – seek an opportunity to give back. Not only will you make a positive impact in your community, you will meet people with similar interests and create connections you may not necessarily have had already. Choose an interest, get on the google machine, and start making a difference. It only takes that first leap into committing to a cause and the rest will fall into place.
Lonely, but never truly alone. Embrace yourself, your life, and your surroundings.