There are billions of people in this world, each with their own opinions, backgrounds, and world views. The only way for you to please them all – if such a thing were possible – is by being inauthentic towards yourself, but I am here to encourage you instead to stand in your own truth.
You are the only person you can truly know through and through – your own thoughts and your own reactions. You are the only accurate compass you have to navigate through this world. This means your cannot and should not navigate your decisions based on what other people need. The only thing you are responsible for in this life is your intention, not your reception. You can control what you put out into the world, but not how people receive or react to it.
By being too afraid to stand strong in your beliefs, you are subconsciously telling yourself that the opinion of others is more important than your own happiness. Being firm in what you believe in is a way of making the commitment to yourself to love you above all else, and I urge you to do it now.
1. Trust What Your Body Tells You
When something isn’t right for you, no matter how you try to justify it, your body knows. Have you ever made a decision that just didn’t sit quite right in your gut? I bet you felt heavy, restricted, and doubtful; yet you forced yourself to believe otherwise and carry on. Learning to understand this instinct is one, but learning to trust it is another. Your body never lies, so pay attention.
Choosing to be vocal about how we really feel can be difficult because people may disagree. It is okay to feel sad if those you care about don’t agree with your decision, but be careful of the choices you make at that time. Trust your decision and stay in that uncomfortable place. I promise you it will pass. Those who truly love and respect you will come around to recognize that you are standing in your own truth. While it may not be easy, I assure you it will be worth it.
2. Make Feeling Good a Priority
In the high demand world we live in, it is all too easy to ignore our body’s signals in order to take care of everyone else’s needs. Stop worrying about what other people are feeling for a minute, and learn to test things against your own body’s compass. What feels good for you? This is your life and you should be your number one priority. Listen to your body, and act accordingly; guilt free.
Make sure that you are showing others that you matter to you, as much as you matter to them. Lead by example. Teach others to value and care for themselves by adopting that into your lifestyle.
3. Focus on the Present
Dwelling on the past, and stressing about the future are both pointless as you cannot change either. Successful people are successful because they understand the importance of the now. Not only do they choose themselves, but they focus on the actions necessary now to get them where they want to be later. Moving forward is always going to get you forward no matter how slow you are moving. You just need to figure out how you are going to move.