How to Reset and Recharge

To Creating a Life That Actually Serves You

Are you feeling rundown? Overwhelmed? Lost in a sea of chaos? Maybe you can’t decide what item on your To-Do List you need to tackle first because it just never seems to get any shorter. It is time to unleash your best life, and to create your life by design. What lights you up? What doesn’t? It’s time to take away things that no longer serve you, and to feel your life rather than let it control you.

This week, I have broken it down into 5 simple steps. As always, the audio version of this post is available on iTunes, SoundCloud, and Google Play.

1. Let Go of the Fear

Overcommitting is a leading cause in burnout. Taking on too much because of the fear of missing out on something else is a recipe for bad results. Have you ever found yourself saying yes to something even though you know deep down you have little to no interest in doing whatever it is?

Look at your current commitments over the next few weeks and months. Ask yourself this:

  1. What am I most excited for?
  2. What are the things I wish I could get out of?
  3. Why am I obligated to do something I don’t even want to do?

*HINT HINT*

You are not obligated to do anything you don’t want to.

We all live in a constant state of fear when it comes to saying “No”. Fear of missing out, fear of judgement from others, fear of failure, fear of the unknown.

In these times of fear, it is important to really listen to and know yourself. Stay true to that feeling. It can be incredibly difficult, but the next time someone asks you to do something that you know you don’t want to do, say no, as hard as it may be, and the freedom you will feel will change your life.

Instead of having FOMO (fear of missing out), frame it as the joy of missing out. See this “No” as an opportunity to get to create something you actually want in this new found freedom. By freeing yourself from what you don’t want, you are making the opportunity to focus on that which you do want.

2. Define a Fresh Start

The majority of our ability to establish a new start and really reset our brains is all psychological. I encourage you to use language that gives you permission to start over. You don’t need a monday, a new year, the first of the month, or anything of that sort. You simply need to choose when you want to make a change and own it.

Tell yourself, “Today is the first day to start my new journey” and then get out there and make a move.

3. Learn to Reflect

Your life flows in seasons, and some are much easier than others I assure you.  While you may have a goal in mind for right now, you need to allow yourself grace to get there. Remember that Mt. Everest is not climbed in a day. The trek is taken piece by piece to camp after camp. The hikers acclimate to the new altitudes, they evaluate what is working and what is not, and they figure out their next move.

If you are facing a particularly difficult season right now, acknowledge it, accept it, and create a strategy to move through it.

4. Change Your Average

Clarity comes from your surroundings. If you are feeling misguided or confused, re-evaluate where, with who, and how you are spending your time. What is it that you want to be/feel/do/have in your life?

If you feel something is missing  – seek it out – find the people you need to get you where you want to be. Ask yourself the hard questions to determine what or who is no longer serving you.  Recognize your strengths and your potential, hold on to that and set your life on fire. If you believe you can, you will.

5. Create Conditions for Success

If your current approach to life isn’t work for you and you aren’t feeling accomplished or fulfilled consider asking yourself a couple hard questions:

  1. What is working for me? Why is it working?
  2. What isn’t working for me? Why isn’t it?

You always have a choice to design your life differently. Some people need BIG shifts to get out of ruts (the end of a relationship, a big move, a new job, etc.), but most people can just make small changes to create the ripple. Start with one habit you want to change, start to get comfortable and feel good about it, watch the accomplishment trickle into other habits of your life.

You are capable of creating your own success.

 

How To Handle Loneliness

How to Avoid a Life of Isolation

Have you ever experienced the feeling of being alone? Well, it’s now February, Forever-Alone-uary, whichever you choose; an absolute pertinent time to discuss this issue.

Let’s be honest, whether you are in a relationship or not, loneliness has a tendency to rear it’s head from time to time. It can be especially hard this time of year as everyone shoves their relationships in your face, but your love life doesn’t have to be the only place you face this challenge. In the work place, at home, or at your pass time of choice establishing and maintaining relationships can get difficult once all of the components of real life “adulthood” start to enter into your life.

Loneliness can certainly take its toll if you so allow it to. As you dwell in your “Woe is me. Why am I alone? I will be alone forever” mentality, life is passing by without you, and with it passes the chance to cope and move past this hopeless state of mind. This week I am providing 4 steps I actively use to combat loneliness in my day-to-day life.

As always, check out the audio of this post on Google Play, SoundCloud, and iTunes.

1. Normalize the Feeling

You are not alone in feeling lonely. Everyone from solo entrepreneurs who work from home and don’t get out often, to the most social of individuals face the feeling of loneliness from time to time. As society becomes more connected through our phones and technology, there is greater feeling of disconnect on a face-to-face level. This is the new normal, and I can guarantee each of you have felt this at least once. You’re not crazy or alone at all, your loneliness is in fact a commonality you share with so many other people.

2. Build Yourself Up

In order to full accept the value you hold, and to be okay with being alone from time to time, you have to create a good relationship with yourself. You need to abandon your self-deprecating thoughts when it comes to doing things alone, because:

  1. You don’t know what other people are thinking.
  2. You really shouldn’t care either way.

Learn the importance of treating yourself. Join that yoga class, go see that exhibit or movie you’ve been wanting to; even if it means you have to do it alone. Yes, having company is nice, but you are with yourself you’re entire life – embrace it and rejoice in the comfort of being able to enjoy that fact.

3. Join a Network Online

As we get older our interest begin to shift. You likely have found yourself drifting from relationships with people you used to spend hours with doing whatever with simply because you have each established your own new lives, new interests, and new trajectories. While this sad reality can leave you feeling empty and alone, the internet has come to save the day.

I know I just said that technology is ruining our ability to feel truly connected, but the internet serves as a great tool to find a like minded community that you can then transition into real life should you so choose (or not!). There are 1000s of online communities waiting for you to discover, and share your experiences with likeminded individuals. Whether your interests are in fitness, entrepreneurship, couponing, or parenting an online community exists out there for you.

These groups/communities can provide a sense of accountability you may not be finding in your “real world” relationships. Use these networks to actually interact with people, support others, and ask for advice. Remember, even when you may feel absolutely alone. Someone is out there somewhere waiting for you.

4. Volunteer

Whether it’s one hour or one day every week, month, or year – seek an opportunity to give back. Not only will you make a positive impact in your community, you will meet people with similar interests and create connections you may not necessarily have had already. Choose an interest, get on the google machine, and start making a difference. It only takes that first leap into committing to a cause and the rest will fall into place.

Lonely, but never truly alone. Embrace yourself, your life, and your surroundings.

 

How to Create a Meaningful Life

How to Live with Purpose and Intention

We all seek to live a life that answers the question “why”.

  • Why am I here?
  • Why am I doing this?
  • What is my purpose?

While somedays we feel as though we are on a clear path, we’ve got it all together, and we are heading in a certain direction other days are not so easy. Knowing who you are and that you have the choice to change your life is key in determining your purpose. You have the choice to determine your direction; good or bad.

As always, the audio version can be heard on SoundCloud, iTunes, and Google Play.

1. Stay True to Yourself

Admit to your imperfections. No human is perfect so learn to embrace this sense of honesty; imperfection is okay.

Remember why you started the path you are one; school, career, hobbies – why did you start these? Come back to your purpose particularly when you are feeling as though things aren’t working as intended.  Social media puts a ton of pressure on us to do more and to be more, but at the end of the day you need to focus on what works for you.

Ask yourself this. At the end of the day, what will make you happy and how are you going to get there? Stay true to you.

2. Focus on Your Value

As a society we have a tendency to be incredibly self-centred always focusing on “me”, that we forget all that we have available within ourselves to help enhance other’s lives. Finding your value; a sense of humour, knowledge, a listening ear, etc. is going to change someone’s life.

What can you provide to other people? Which problems can you help people solve? What do people in your life often call on you for?

Use these questions to reflect. Take a step back, figure out what skills you have to offer, and work on applying them in your life to make a difference. Too many of us simply exist, focus on staying true to yourself and use what you already have within you to enhance the lives of others.

There is meaning in a life that serves. Serve yourself so you can overflow into serving everyone around.

How To Live a Joyful Life

Finding Every Day Happiness

We all desire a good life; one filled with purpose, love, and of course joy. Living a life full of joy does not mean that it is perfect. Living a joyful life simply means to appreciate the greatness that is either happening or anticipating the greatness that is yet to come, despite whatever negativity you may have going on.

Many people seek to find joy in something or someone outside of their own being. The real answer to finding joy in your life however, is to confront the positives within yourself and your own life. Trust the process, and focus on the good.

Joy is a path you must consciously choose to follow each and every day.

1. Let Go of Hurt

Easier said than done, I know. Holding onto a grudge, anger, or hurt doesn’t create any resolution to make you less angry, in fact it serves no purpose other than to occupy space in your mind. Being angry and holding onto anger not only drains our energy, but also prevents us from being able to focus on the things that will bring us joy. You need to focus on serving yourself in the present by learning to come to terms with past. Chances are whatever is hurting you cannot be changed, so stop dwelling and start moving towards forgiveness, freedom, and the joy that comes with it.

2. Practice Positive Thought

Do you ever notice that when you’re in a negative headspace, bad things tend to happen more frequently? Minute by minute you are constructing the thoughts that will guide your life. You are developing your own narrative – good or evil. The thoughts you think will begin becoming the actions you take, the behaviours you develop, and a reflection of the real you.

Negative energy can lead to negative results, much like positive thinking can do the opposite. When we think in a more positive headspace we are more likely to seek (and find) the right opportunities that will give us the results we desire. In order to live a life that focuses on joy, you must learn to train your thoughts to do the same.

3. Set Intentions

Intentions are going to guide your actions and in turn allow you to achieve the joyful life you are seeking. Make it your mission to remain open and agreeable despite whatever negativity or challenges you may face throughout your day. Intentions provide not only a structure for your day, but also the motivation to actually follow through. If you tell yourself you intend to have a joyful day, your odds are better than if not

Try it out for yourself! Tell yourself “I intend to be kind, I intend to take the first step in pursuing passion X, I intend to help another person today” whatever it is, set an intention that will positively influence your day.

4. Find Passion In The Work of Others

One of the keys to experiencing joy, is to be able to share it with others. Every day is not going to be a good one, and while today may not be a good day for you, it likely is for at least one other person you know. Find them, and celebrate with them. Learning to use other people’s successes and positive vibrations to shift your own, will ease your ability to find your own joy.

Congratulate that friend on their new job! Celebrate that family member’s newly announced pregnancy! Even if it’s something you are lacking or envying in your own life – I encourage you to find passion and ignite your own joy in sharing in the successes of those closest to you. Positivity can be contagious.

Every moment offers you a choice. Stress, anger, confusion, joy… Which will you choose to sit in?

Millennial of the Month: Cassidy Davis

Cassidy Davis Headshot

This month I had the pleasure of interviewing an up and coming actress living in Los Angeles. Cassidy shares about her transition to LA, what it’s like living there day to day, and even provides advice for other millennials who are a little too afraid to follow their truest intention. The full interview with Cassidy can be found on the podcast.

Where to Find the Interview

iTunes Link

SoundCloud Link

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How to Start Weight Lifting

To Starting Your Fitness Journey

Raise your hand if getting fit was on your horizon for 2018. If it was, that’s great! If it wasn’t, that’s fine too – maybe I can give you some motivation to make it so.

In an age full  of Fitspo Instagrammers and Fitness YouTubers, it can quickly become an information overload if you are new to the #fitlife. If you’re a newbie, you’ve likely been found asking yourself:

  • Should I do cardio?
  • How many crunches do I need to do before I get abs?
  • What does this machine do?
  • What do I do with these dumbbells?

… or some variation of these questions. Being new to the gym can be scary and overwhelming. I get it! I have put together SEVEN of my best tips to help you face your anxiety and get started on achieving your fitness goals.

As always, the audio version can be found on iTunes, SoundCloud, and Google Play.

1. Focus on You

The number one fear stopping people from starting their fitness journey (or anything new in life) is fear of judgement. Too often people say that their fear of other people watching them in the gym is what has prevented them from starting. You are probably thinking, “If I don’t know what I’m doing people are going to laugh at me”, and I am here to discredit that thought right now.

Most people in the gym are there for the same reason – to better themselves. Similar to how you may be obsessing over what people are thinking about you, these people are too busy focusing on themselves too be worried about what you are doing.  Focus on your own mission, your own goals, and your own vision for how you want your fitness to progress. Worrying about other people’s hypothetical thoughts is only going to hinder your own progress.

2. Stick to the Basics

Despite the fancy techniques and you may see your favourite fitspo’s doing on instagram, at the end of the day it’s the simplest moves that are going to get you the results you want. Attempting “fancy” moves, especially when you are new and haven’t nailed down technique, is a recipe for injury. Focus on understanding the different muscle groups and exercises for each, to create a foundation upon which you can build later.

www.bodybuilding.com is a great resource for beginners!

3. Forget About Supplements

First things first, yes, I do believe that supplements can help you in your fitness regime, but no, I do not believe they are necessary. Particularly, as a beginner, supplements merely add to the confusion of establishing your bearings in the gym. Supplements are just that – meant to supplement your activity and diet. Until you know what you’re doing there is no sense in adding to the confusion.

Further to that, if you’re just someone recreationally approaching fitness, be weary of the supplements you buy into. Fitspo models are sponsored by supplement companies to tell you that you need supplements to be successful; in reality you do not. You will still be able to achieve the results you desire provided you follow a proper sleep schedule, hydrate, and practice good nutrition without paying hundreds of $$$ for some powders and pills.

4. Eat Well (But Treat Yourself)

“Abs are made in the kitchen” – cliche, but true. It is impossible to out train a bad diet. No matter how much effort you put into your training, eating poorly will hinder your potential. Focus on maintaining a balanced diet, with as many whole foods as possible, but fear not that slice of pizza or fancy pastry every now and then.

I do not encourage any extremes – low carb, gluten free, shake replacements, etc – as typically these don’t work in the long term. Instead focus on making individual swaps and over time it will get much easier. Remember that no diet or healthy lifestyle is worth it if it prevents you from living a life you love. The 80/20 rule (80% whole foods, 20% whatever) is king in finding a plan that works and reaching your fitness goals with ease.

5. Take Rest Days

As tempting it can be to train 6 to 7 days a week, don’t. Your body needs time to recover. Despite the fact you may have planned to go to the gym Monday through Friday – if you’re sore on Thursday, skip it! By over training, you are doing your body no favours. Your muscles need time to repair, recover, and rebuild so it’s important to listen. Not working out is better than a half-assed struggle of a workout.

6. Ditch the Scale

This might go without saying, but weight is not a measure of physical fitness. Sometimes the numbers on the scale do not reflect the progress you are making in the gym. Your self-worth should not be dependent on a number; the scale does not measure inches lost, muscle definition, etc.

What matters most is how you feel and how you look – the scale does not measure this. Progress pictures and actual physical measurements are the most accurate method for determining your progress.

7. Find What You Love

Weight lifting is not for everyone. Whether it be at home workouts, group classes, yoga, or weights – find what works for you. You need to experiment. If something isn’t working for you – be open to trying something else – just because your favourite fitness person isn’t into spin class doesn’t mean you can’t give it a try!

Your fitness journey is just that – YOURS – Yours to discover, yours to create, and yours to love.

How to Set Goals in a New Year

Dreaming Big Every Day

So it’s now mid-January. How are your goals and resolutions going? Damn.

Let me guess, you either:

  1.  Missed the mark for starting your new years’ resolution (there’s always next year right?)
  2. Started out strong but fell off the wagon around day 5
  3.  Are killing it with your goals.

In order to be successful in achieving your goals you first need to understand the common struggles with setting goals, the flexibility available when things don’t seem to be going your way, and the strategies for making the most out of your 2018.  This week I have 4 simple steps to set you on track to taking control of the next 12 months and beyond.

As always you can listen to the audio version of this post on iTunes, Google Play, or SoundCloud.

1. Stop Setting Time Limitations

Nothing is ever going to go as scheduled. So what if it’s not January first – you have the choice to steer your life in whatever direction you choose, any day of the year! The great thing about navigating adulthood is that each day affords a new chance for you to decide which way you want to go.

If you’ve tried something new and you’ve failed, it’s okay to try again. If you’ve decided that you would rather steer course in a different direction, that’s fine too! You do not need the permission of a date on a calendar to start pursuing the things you have always wanted. Stop limiting yourself, and start chasing your dreams.

2. Find Purpose

Motivation is fleeting. What seems like a good idea one minute, may bore you the next. It’s important not to rely solely on your initial motivation, as it will most certainly fizzle. You instead need to determine the root of your motivation and use that as your purpose.

  • Why are you doing this?
  • What are you hoping to achieve?

Goals are only worth having if they enrich our lives so find your deeper purpose to create that value.

3. Establish a Meaningful Vision

Where is it you want to get to with your goals? What is it going to help you achieve? By creating the larger picture of what you want your life to be, you will more easily manifest these results into your reality. A vision of the future that matters to you will help you stay motivated to achieving your goals.

4. Remember There is No Finish Line

As a society we have created an illusion that some magical fairytale exists at “the end of our goals” – this is a lie. With every new achievement comes new responsibilities, and there is no real end game. Think of a time you started a new job with a few tasks. Chances are, over time, you accumulated more tasks, more responsibility, and more opportunities.

Life is always changing. You are always learning new skills.  You will never be able to predict what the future holds, but you need to be prepared to adapt to these unexpected changes.

Welcome all new opportunities with open arms and enrich your life. Start right now.

How To Practice Healthy Holiday Habits

Guilt-Free Holiday Season

The holidays are an exciting time of year! Between the Christmas parties, the cookies, the gifts, and the quality time spent with friends and family, you likely have a jam packed schedule and full stomach in your horizon. Trust me, I know firsthand and as exciting as this time of year can be, it can also be quite stressful and taxing on our minds and bodies.

This week I am providing 4 steps you can follow to help ease the stress of the holiday season. Christmas is meant to be enjoyed, and here is how! As always, you can find the audio version on iTunes, SoundCloud, and Google Play.

1. Get Plenty of Sleep

If you’re anything like me, you likely have a tendency to over commit. Between social gatherings, shopping, dinners, parties, baking, wrapping gifts, and so on, this time of year is busy! The last thing you need to be doing is getting sick.

Our immune systems rely on sleep to recharge and rebuild the cells we damaged throughout the day. While it may seem beneficial to ditch a few Z’s in favour of knocking out that To-Do list, I urge you to resist. Sleep is key, especially this time of year in order to maintain that pep in your step and provide you the momentum you need to get things done and get them done well!

Do not sacrifice your sleep – your mind, body, and immune system will thank you.

2. Avoid Restriction

Any of you who tried dieting or weight loss knows about restrictions all too well. You think that cutting carbs, cutting sugar, cutting fat, etc. is going to help you not gain weight during the holidays. I am here to encourage you to stop with the unnecessary added stress, and embrace the holiday food for what it is – delicious!

Trying to limit your intake is only going to result in binge. This is your chance to indulge! Those seemingly impossible last 5 pounds you are obsessing over are those slices of pizza you wanted on Friday, or the couple of beers you want to have out with your friends. You have to come to terms that those last 5 pounds are not worth your social life, those special moments with special people, and most importantly your sanity.

I am not saying the holidays are your excuse to go buck-wild and eat 5000 calories in a day, but if you accidentally do then hey! It’s done! It was one day, and you can try and be better the next.

Personally I find being mindful, and eating slowly help me listen to my body’s hunger and fullness cues. Maybe try starting with slightly smaller portions as opposed to a plate heaped high. You are better off to have to go up for seconds than to feel obligated to finish a massive plate just because its right in front of you!

Have your nana’s dessert that you’ve been waiting all year for! Try one of every flavour of cookie if you want. Satisfy your cravings and stop when you’re full. The holidays are only a few days so you might as well enjoy it. I promise the memories are worth the last 5 pounds.

3. Hydrate!

Water is crucial to maintain energy levels when its busy, helping to de-bloat after a big meal, and aiding in hydration of your skin (which if you’re anything like me your skin is CRYING this time of year). The best thing you can do before and after you indulge in a holiday meal is to maintain your hydration. This will help you to a) control your appetite, and b) flush your body out when you’ve had an extra slice of pie (or two). Water is our most underrated resource, so get it into you!

4. Enjoy Yourself

Holidays can be stressful, fast-paced, and overwhelming, but they are meant to be enjoyed. So have fun! Embrace the time with family, spread the joy, and indulge in some delicious goodies; no judgement here!

How to Create Your Own Future

Create the Life You Really Want

Here you are – 2017.

Right now you are whatever age. One day you are going to be much older, and one day you are eventually going to die. There is no escaping that fact. We are all going to die.

I want you to imagine that your life is ending tomorrow. Does your life look how you imagined? What do you regret? What are all the things you planned, but haven’t yet followed through on?

  • Maybe you never managed to find the motivation to lose that 20 pounds you always wanted to.
  • Perhaps you have found yourself stuck in a really bad relationship for years because you were too afraid to leave.
  • Maybe you’re stuck at a really lousy job because it pays the bills and you aren’t certain you can find anything better if you quit.

So here you are laying on your death bed. I want you to ask yourself this:

What is ONE thing you wish you would have done differently? Do you have it? Are you imagining that one thing?

I am about to offer you the chance to take whatever that one thing is, and work towards turning it into a reality now.

This week I am offering two very basic steps you need to start now in order to create the change you are seeking. As always, the audio version of this podcast will be available on iTunes, Google Play, and Soundcloud.

1. Stop Doing What You Are Currently Doing

If you are unsatisfied with some aspect of your life, it is obvious that your current routine is not working. Further to that, continuing to do the same thing day in and day out is never going to garner you different results. New opportunities aren’t going to fall out of the sky, and you aren’t suddenly going to wake up on day with a plethora of motivation to change your lifestyle – you need to make a conscious effort.

In order to make a change, you need to focus on determining the source of your problem.

  1. What bad habits do you have that are preventing you from achieving what you want?
  2. Do spend to many hours watching youtube?
  3. Ae you eating too many cookies in a week?
  4. Do you spend too much money on useless stuff?
  5. Where do you want to go, or what do you want to do? And which of these habits is preventing you from getting there?

Whichever you determine it is, work on stopping. Don’t you dare say you can’t! “I can’t” is just an excuse that allows you to be lazy. You CAN do whatever it is you want – in fact the difference between you and the person living the life you want is that they told themselves “I can” and they did it”.

Stop with the bad habits. Stop with the excuses. And stop letting laziness control your life.

2. Starting Developing New Actions

In order to successfully build new habits, you need to approach it piece by piece.  Lifestyle changes are much easier to accomplish when they are broken down into small, more manageable chunks. So, when it comes to developing new habits to work towards the future you want, the cold turkey approach isn’t going to work. Instead, I recommend slowly replacing bad habits with new ones, one by one.

It’s all about simply taking the initiative to start developing new habits. Too often we tend to get stuck in the past in that we think, “Well this would’ve worked out if I had’ve just done this instead”. While learning from past mistakes is important, focusing all of your attention on the past is ultimately going to hold you back. The past may have been bad, but there was certainly also a lot of good moving to where you are today.

Successful people aren’t sitting around crying about yesterday, they are taking those lessons they learned, applying them to today, and moving towards tomorrow. Wherever it is you want to get in life, you need to map out your plan – swap a Netflix episode here for 30 minutes of research towards a project you’re working on, skip the take out meal one night a week and put that 10 bucks in a travel fund for that trip you want to take – be accountable, and start building your life piece by piece.

Your future is yours to create.

How To Accept and Use Feedback

How to Accept and Use Feedback

Receiving feedback is never very easy, particularly when that feedback is negative. In fact, your initial reaction when it comes to receiving criticism is likely going to be defensive. Even when you know the feedback you are getting is entirely accurate, it can sometimes be difficult to accept it graciously and move on.

Learning how to rewire your reactions when it comes to receiving negative feedback is essential in learning how to use that feedback to your advantage. The first step to growing as a person is to learn where it is that you can improve. No one is perfect, and therefore nobody expects you to be.

Follow these 3 simple steps to begin accepting and utilizing feedback for your own personal benefit. As always, the audio version of this podcast can be found on SoundCloud, iTunes, and Google Play.

1. Pick Your Audience

You are never going to satisfy or suit everyone. Focus your efforts on the people you actually want to please. If it’s a product or idea you are selling or pitching – who is your intended consumer? Design your content for them. If it’s a work project for a specific client – design your presentation towards what they want.

Sometimes in life it is important to recognize that your opinion or idea isn’t always going to best deliver your message. Listen to the feedback you are receiving and re-work your message to suit your audience’s needs.  You need to know who you are trying to talk to, work for, satisfy, and so on. Deliver your message in a way the intended audience will understand while still staying true to your own intentions. You can still be yourself and please others too provided you use their feedback to determine how best you can satisfy their needs.

2. Learn to Listen and Evaluate

Negative feedback: it’s uncomfortable, it can be hurtful, and it can really do a number on your self-esteem. While in these times it may seem easy enough to just nod along and tune whatever the other party is saying; you need to remember that the opportunity to receive feedback, even if it is negative, is an important one!

You never want to send out the signal that you are

  1. Not open for feedback in the future.
  2. Entirely “uncoachable” all together.

Take in the feedback you have been given, and rather than react to it; I encourage you to process. Take the time to really pick it apart (not in an obsessive way) in order to determine the validity of the feedback.

  • Was it something you already knew about yourself or your project?
  • Have you received similar feedback in the past?
  • How credible is the person giving you this feedback? (Maybe their opinion doesn’t really matter anyway).

Only by listening and really evaluating what the individual is trying to tell you can you really begin to process the response, and apply the necessary or recommended changes into your life.

3. Take a Hard Look In The Mirror

Mindfulness is integral to this process; knowing your behaviours, and recognizing where you can improve, and feedback is the perfect opportunity for you to reflect on just how mindful you are really being.

It is easy to blame other factors, people, and situations for why our work was received poorly, but that reaction is not helpful nor constructive in the long run. You are in control of your own life. Own it.

  • Where can you be better?
  • What can you do better?

Accept, but don’t dwell on what isn’t working and keep moving towards being better and doing better next time. Criticism can hurt, and that is okay. Remember, the difficult times in which we struggle are often the times that provide the most successes.

Embrace resistance, embrace feedback, and work on moving forward as a better self.