In honour of my 25th birthday and the inaugural post to my newest venture, I have decided to open up by publishing my first blog and podcast episode with the theme of the Five Lessons I’ve Learned in 25 Years. If you’re not much of a reader, you can find the audio version (EP001) here on iTunes, Google Play or SoundCloud
1. If you want something, go for it. No one else will do it for you.
In an age where social media makes it so easy to compare our lives to others (friends, family, and even strangers) it’s hard to not become envious of the things other people have, the places they go, and lives they are living. While it can be pretty easy to become trapped in the dark vortex of jealous it is important to remember that those people made a choice to get to where they are today. Choices that you too are capable of making.
Rather than spending your time sitting around wishing you were doing/having/experiencing what other are, go out there and get it for yourself! Do you feel as though it’s something you can’t do right away? Start making choices that are going to get you one step closer.
2. Live in the short term, think in the long term.
At the beginning of 2017 I decided that I was going to make the year my “Year of Yes” in which I was going to finally stop living cautiously and start embracing spontaneous opportunities as they presented themselves. While it’s all good fun to agree to go on a week long trip across Canada out to the East Coast (coming soon July 2017), it’s also equally important to be mindful of your long-term goals.
Ideally, I would like to be a homeowner in about a year’s time. Does this mean I can drop everything and go backpack Asia for 3 months? Likely not, but that doesn’t mean I have to stop enjoying my life. I have learned that life is too short to turn down opportunities in the present for fear of how it will impact the future, but I think we as millennials have a slight tendency to be a little reckless in this aspect.
You can have your cake and eat it too, just maybe consider only one slice at a time.
3. Surround yourself with the people you want to be like.
Studies have shown that your behaviour is a direct reflection of the 5 people with whom you spend the most time. If you find yourself spending time with people you find draining, unproductive, or even self-destructive, chances are these are habits and tendencies that you are self-consciously adopting as well. Carefully take the time to assess whom you want to invest your time with, and don’t be afraid to let go of people whom don’t add value to your life. Being in mind of always trying to be one’s best self can aid in the process of ridding your life of toxic people. Do it for yourself.
4. Express your gratitude.
This one is simple, but often forgotten. When was the last time you told your loved ones you loved them? How about the last time you said thank you to someone for doing an every day task? When was the last time you congratulated yourself on the efforts you have put in, day in and day out to living your best possible life? Do it today. Spread kindness and prosperity will follow.
5. Be the best you. Always work on self-improvement, self-reflection and self-betterment.
The best thing that we can do as individuals is seek to contribute our best possible selves to the greater picture. While it may be a continuous struggle, each day we are working towards being better than we were yesterday in all facets of our lives. By recognizing and embracing our faults and flaws we can not only work towards improving them, but also use them to better understand why others behave the ways in which they do. It’s so easy to point the finger at someone else and indicate their short comings, but when was the last time you looked at yourself for a change. Embrace your accomplishments, but remain humble and always seek areas in which you can improve.